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When will I flipping learn?

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1questionfromme · 05/07/2024 18:04

Please come someone come along and tell me that they have been similarly dim as me? Just to make me feel better.

So today we had our annual 'your opinion counts' feedback at work - basically the staff survey results for our department.

Boss went through them and said that he was concerned about one or two results and if there was anything we wanted to share re: the reasons for the results to either say so publicly or contact him afterwards to discuss, just to get some context on some of the answers.

Like an absolute idiot, I took him to one side afterwards to explain some of the things I said on the survey. Why oh why don't I ever learn not to do this sort of thing? They don't want to hear, they just want an easy life. I was shut down no uncertain terms re: the feedback I gave which was basically there is resentment in the department re: the division of work and one person being lazy. This is backed up by performance stats. But, no, I am wrong. It's not true. The stats lie.

I can't believe that after 20 years working for corporate nightmares I haven't learned that the way to go about things is to just put up and shut up. What a fool. Please say I'm not the only one?

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EatCrow · 12/08/2024 19:07

1questionfromme · 25/07/2024 09:51

Thanks so much to everyone who has replied. I feel better that it's not just me but honestly it's enraging and depressing that people are just routinely ignored. I suppose it will at least encourage and remind me to not bother again. I've written a post-it note and stuck it on my monitor saying 'don't say it' (home office!) Grin

😁 I find myself writing that down a lot (particularly when I’ve had a drink)!

edit - this is when I am at home OP, and regarding other areas of my life!

invisiblecat · 12/08/2024 19:25

sesquipedalian · 25/07/2024 07:36

I’m glad I’m retired, because every time, I used to fall into the yawning gap opened by the question, “Tell me honestly”.

I'm nearly retired, and if anyone were ever to pose the "Tell me honestly" at me, then I would be strongly tempted to respond by saying:
"Honestly? Okay. You want complete honesty? There are loads of things I could say, but there really isn't any point in me telling you, because once it leaves your hands you know as well as I do that nothing will be done, so we would both be wasting our time, wouldn't we?"

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1questionfromme · 12/08/2024 20:26

goingdownfighting · 12/08/2024 18:34

Join a union

Write it all down.
Get as much evidence as you can

Then get someone to look at it.

Could be victimisation but very difficult to prove. Usually they'll brush it off in a 'sorry you see it that way' kind of thing.

So get writing things down and get solid evidence before you confront the issue.

Thanks. I have actually joined a union since all this started for completely unrelated reasons (second job which is unionised)

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1questionfromme · 12/08/2024 20:28

Pantaloons99 · 12/08/2024 18:40

Is it possibly to do with this one person that you've highlighted? Are they protected, favoured or liked in some way?

People like you are important. I have spent alot of time in hospital and I have been so thankful for the ones who called out their colleagues' shit and incompetence that made things really unpleasant for us.

I have wondered about this with this person. I can't see any reason why they would be but it would help to make it make sense.

Thanks for being kind about me too. It helps.

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1questionfromme · 12/08/2024 20:34

To everyone who has said that they've had similar happen, and advised not to engage with the survey again, thanks. I won't and I won't say why I haven't engaged when they ask me, either 😂

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1questionfromme · 12/08/2024 20:40

allthevitamins · 25/07/2024 06:28

I feel for you OP. I'm the same, except it's often my job to gather the feedback!

I think often the higher ups want the 'engagement' box ticked without having to deal with the muck and bullets of any consequences I.e acknowledging that there is a problem and actually dealing with it.

I'm struggling so badly with this at the moment that it's getting in the way of me doing my job well and I'm questioning my career and life choices.

Thank you OP for sharing, you're definitely not alone!

I'm sorry, I missed your response the first time around. I hope that you're ok.

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Toptotoe · 12/08/2024 21:01

As far as I’m aware all public sector organisations are like this.
Every year we score low on ‘bad performance is not managed well’ in the staff survey and nothing ever changes. No one wants feedback that is in anyway meaningful.
The malingerers malinger and their numbers swell as it’s contagious. . .
They get‘reasonable adjustments’ after an OH referral ( with no medical evidence required). The adjustments were frequently anything but reasonable.
its all quite depressing

Sweetteaplease · 12/08/2024 21:08

Nah, I say good on you. If it's fair, constructive feedback, then speak up!

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