Wwyd childminder

[Tigerbreadbum]

Our wonderful childminder told me last month her father was in hospital and was expected not to make it, she said she’d still work. On that particular day she only has my children and another (who’s mum I know very well). We both offered to have our children at home so she could spend time with her dad.

Ive got next months invoice and she’s deducted the day from the bill. In my mind she had said she would still work and I made the choice to not send my children so never expected a refund.
Would you pay the bill plus the deduction or just what she’s asked for? I don’t want to ask the other mum to make her feel guilty for accepting the discount but morally for me it doesn’t feel right?

I’d pay the invoice she’s given you because altering it is likely to cause her more work, and if you want her to receive the money for the day then give her a cash bonus.

I just bank transfer her the amount each month so it would just be a case of sending the invoiced amount plus the extra day

I would do that but make sure you message her first to let her know what you're doing.

In this case, I would probably bank transfer the amount of the invoice.

then I would take the time to get a card and write her a note. Put some cash inside and hand it to her at pickup. Round up if it is an odd amount. Thank her for being so strictly ethical, but explain that you don’t want her to be out income in her time of grief. You value her care for your child too much and you are sorry for her loss.

This is a lovely idea, thank you

No don’t. She won’t want to feel like a charity case.

She’d have to make an updated invoice so it matches the payment she receives, for tax records or she’ll get in trouble if ever audited. So I wouldn’t send a different amount. Either speak to her first and ask for a new invoice or pay the invoice and then give her cash as a bonus.