12 invites sent a month ago, only 2 RSVP’s

[Tomatosoupandbread]

My daughter’s party invites went out a month ago. On the invite I said please RSVP, as the parents need to sign a waiver prior to attending the party, and I need to text them the link.

We have had 2 RSVP’s-one a yes, one a no. I have gently nudged parents in the playground and have had the same response from all of them-yes I’ve got the invite, I’ll get back to you, but no verbal or text confirmation as to whether they are attending or not. The party is tomorrow.

My daughter is going through an autism assessment and can find friendships difficult, but I would rather be able to prime her that only one child is attending than not know either way. I get on well with the parents and have known them all a number of years, and the children have all attended our parties previously, but this year has gone a bit weird!

I would prep her. It sounds like only one is coming.

People are weird about replying.

People are pig ignorant about replying.

I wonder if the idea of signing a waiver in advance is putting people off?

They should just say no, though.

Can't they just sign the waiver when they arrive?

Can you try and catch some people today? Has she got friends outside of school, or family attending?

There isn’t any phone reception at the party-it‘s a forest school one. I’d still rather have a breezy “can’t make it this year, sorry!” than radio silence, somehow that feels worse!

How very rude of them! I'd be tempted to prime your daughter but make it sound even more exciting with only one guest - hopefully a close chum? Good luck x

Her Dad has managed to rally a friend’s daughter to come that dd knows from outside school, and her sister is coming. We will make it fun and special regardless. It’s the first time we have done a smaller party-in previous years we did a trampoline park and invited the class, so it didn’t really matter as much if people didn’t RSVP as we just paid for those that showed up on the day, so maybe I’m noticing it more this year.

So rude.
I hope your daughter has a lovely birthday!

The little girl that has RSVP-ed isn’t actually that close to dd, but maybe this will be a nice opportunity for them both to spend some time together as she is a really sweet girl. She goes to after school club every day so we haven’t had chance to have her for tea yet, but did manage a lovely weekend play date a while ago. It will work out no matter what.

You've got the right attitude and sounds enough to make a party! 🥳

How very rude of them. I always try to rsvp as soon as I can.

So rude, I hated organising parties. My dc are a bit older now, so it's usually an activity for them and a couple of friends. It's much easier that way. I think 4 is a nice number, and your dc will have a great day!

I hate this. It's almost like the parents are waiting for a better opportunity to turn up, before accepting 😠 It sounds like your daughter will still have a brilliant day 💐🎉

People are so rude

That's really poor - some people are so flakey!

Hope your dd has a lovely time with those who come

How was the party op?

People are so bloody rude these days . It’s so bloody ignorant and bad mannered.
This never happened when my children had parties a few years ago .
I hope your daughter has a lovely birthday 🎈

It’s really rude of them. Sorry to hear this OP.

I would however suck it up and chase the parents for a yes or no. The uncertainty is worse especially for your daughter.

If you have their mobile numbers send out ten text messages directly to each parent (not in a group chat) written for a yes / no answer. Say the party organisers need to have numbers or whatever. Hope she has a brilliant party, sounds absolutely lovely.

Hope your dd had a great day x