Would you smoke a joint with your children?

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Watching Beautiful Boy, and I can tell it’s going to be heart breaking.

The Dad (very middle class, liberal, pretty well off ) smokes a joint with his son (who becomes addicted to drugs ).

if you smoke pot, would you smoke with your children ? In what circumstances ?

How old are the children?

Not your question but no I don't smoke pot and would absolutely hit the roof if anyone tried sharing a joint with them.

I don’t smoke pot, but I’m not sure I see it as massively different than smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol. If you do it, you feel okay about it and you probably don’t feel massively committed to putting your children off from doing it either. I know MIL was buying pints in the pub for Dh at 14/15 and sent him off to uni with several cases of cider. If she smoked cannabis, that probably would have been normalised too, to a degree.

No never. I always think it’s a bit sad when older people smoke pot - grow up already !

No - links to poor mh and paranoia are too strong for me to want to encourage my dc down this route.

@Himitsu in this case probably 16+

I know people who smoke with their adult kids. I just think they're middle aged losers for smoking the stuff in the first place. I know you get them on here who say they hold down jobs and live normal lives but IRL they're all paranoid, unemployed follow chem trails dickheads .

@mindutopia yes this occurred to me. My kids see me drink, not infrequently. But it’s not illegal and I don’t invite them to join me.

I have with my dad.

When he hit 60 and retried he started wanting to do things he hadn't done before. One was getting stoned.

I don't smoke weed but have on occasion (maybe less than 10 times in my life) so I gifted him with a joint. We shared it one night while putting the world to rights sat around his firepit.

Honestly it's something daft I'll always remember with a smile.

If you're kids must do drugs of any kind,let them have their own experience with their mates and not with cool mum n dad.

I got my mum stoned one evening way back

It was fun

This was pre-skunk when it was grass

Grass is fine, skunk is evil.

DS wanted to try pot brownies once so I made some for him. (I only ever put it in food).

I said he could try them as long as I bought it, I made them and I hung out with him after he ate them.

He hated the experience. Put him right off. I’m glad I was able to look out for him though.

No, it would be sad and lame. It's not cool - I don't care how 'middle class and liberal' you are, if you know anything about the drug trade and the misery it causes it's not something to pretend is a 'fun' thing to do with impressionable teens.

I'm an ex smoker and I'm astounded by the way cigarettes are now seen as utterly disgusting and shameful - and yet plenty of folks think weed is somehow normal and fine. Despite being illegal.

DH's dad is a session musician and a bit of an ageing hippy. He passed on his love of, and talent for, music to DH although DH only plays amateur gigs. Sometimes when he was younger he would be a roadie at gigs where his dad was playing in the band or supporting. DH has told me about a time when they went to a session together and a spliff was as being passed round and DH found it the most excruciatingly embarrassing experience ever. Not that he is averse to smoking some cannabis but just not in front of his dad. It's like watching a sex scene in a move with your kids

I don't smoke so I wouldn't (and my children are young anyway) but I guess it's not much different to sharing an a bottle of wine with an adult child?

If they were over 25 and had smoked previously without becoming addicted, and they suggested it not me, and were functioning responsible adults definitely I would. Otherwise no. I'm not going to be the one to introduce an addiction. I'm not going to potentially affect their brain development or trigger mental health struggles (as it's known to do when smoked pre age 25).

I won't do it when responsible for kids. I won't do it around kids and I won't do it if I will be seeing kids before I'm sober. So basically I don't do it now. When I can again I will (would love it to be legalised!) but I won't be letting my kids know as pre having kids I used to really struggle not to do it every evening and they have my genes so I don't want them thinking it's ok. My dad was an alcoholic too so we are addictive people I could never forgive myself if I got them hooked. If they decide it's ok for themselves and smoke responsibly I would love to do it with them

I have/would again.

I live with a chronic pain condition, and it helps more than the meds I'm on with less side effects.

One of my adult dc also has a condition that flares up from time to time, and that's when we do it.

No different than de-stressing with a bottle of wine or whatever imo.

My brother and I made ahembrownies once, my mum was meant to be out until late, we were sat in the garden feeling the effects and talking nonsense when my brother started really laughing, he'd seen my mum through the kitchen window taking a big bite of a brownie, we ended up having to tell her because she came out with a cup of coffee and after about half an hour said oh they're lovely I might have to treat myself to another one and we had to stop her, she wasn't angry but she was stoned. We must've been about 19 and 21 at the time so not children, but her children.

One of my friends at uni used to pick up for her gran, gran was really old had all kinds of health issues cataracts, arthritis not sure what else, but a neighbour gave her a joint once and she said it was the best she'd ever slept. She smoked anyway and asked my friend if she could get her any whacky baccy 😂. She wasn't hurting anyone and £20 worth used to last her weeks, she'd have one in the evening watching TV before bed.