Can anyone explain this? (Phone/text issue)

[Bemyclementine]

I communicate with ExH via a separate phone to my usual one. This is to protect myself. He goes through phases of sending long sometimes really unpleasant, bullying messages. Multiple messages, full of bitterness.

So, seperate phone , phone 2(iphone) so I don't have to see it. I check it when he has DC. Blocked from my personal (samsung) phone , phone 1.

He claims to have sent messages to my personal number, but that I've responded via phone 2. He thinks I've diverted phone 1 to phone 2. So he texts phone 1 and I receive it on phone 2. He's said a particular message recently was sent from me, from phone 1 and that message doesn't show up for him in our message thread on phone 2. I sent it from phone 2 and I can see it on phone 2

I'm not playing any games here I categorically have not diverted phone 1 to 2, I havent unblocked. I havent messaged from phone 1

Wtf is going on here? Is he just fucking with me, for want of a better expression??

To note, I have previously diverted phone 2, to phone 1, so I'm not carrying 2 phones . I've checked,abd no diverts are in place on either phone.

Ignore him, he's playing games. Probably wants your other phone number and thinks he can con you into sending a message from phone 1.

Hes got my other number but is blocked. I'm disappointed in myself for getting drawn into this bullshit

I think he’s trying to get into your head suggesting you’re letting your guard down and are now using phone1.

Ignore, but do double check your actions.

I know 100% that I have not used phone 1 or diverted.

When you diverted phone 2 to phone 1, did you receive a message from him and respond to it? If so, it will have been from phone 1.

Alternatively, have you ever associated phone 1 number with your apple iCloud account (which phone 2 is using).

Alternative alternative (and probably most likely), XH has a single contact set up for you on his phone which has your phone 1 number, phone 2 number, and the email address associated with your iCloud account. He has them misallocated and is getting confused.

I'd call his bluff and tell him you're not using phone 1 now. You only have phone 2.

I'd absolutely stop forwarding the phones though - just carry both when you need to. Saves any on mistakes!

I didnt ever receive any calls or messages while the divert was in place. I didn't send any. From either phone. It was just 1 day when I was out all day. Seperate emails also for iPhone account. Not linked in any way.

I don't see why you need to provide any kind of explanation to him or get involved in any discussion about it at all. Why does he need to know? It's not relevant for future communication. Just ignore this completely and only respond to him about the children only, nothing else.

No, I shouldn't uave engaged and I'm normally pretty good at not.

He said it was a positive step that we were communicating on my personal phone. I replied, we're not?

I think @JustPleachy 's third explanation is most likely, that he has got both numbers in one contact and got confused as to which he is replying to. Not that you need to mention that to him at all!

I would just drop the rope and not respond further until it's about the children and your arrangements.

It's totally understandable that this has caused you a moment of confusion, so don't beat yourself up about it.

Yeah I'm going to have to just ignore it. It's infuriating. He's adamant the message I sent cane from phone 1. I can say with 100% certainty that it didn't.