Terrible terrible dream - Death TW

[PalaminoPaint]

My dream was so awful, I can’t bring myself to describe it.
All I can say is that it was about my 19 year old son. He’s a good boy, I have no worries about his behaviour or anything. He is off to uni in Sept.

But it woke me up at 5am and since then I’ve felt anxious and sick. I am in work ready to start my day, but want to rush home and cry. It’s really frightened me. Please tell me this is normal and will pass. It’s shaken me up.

I feel bad writing this when so many people are dealing with horrible ‘real life’ situations, hence the TW. But I feel so very unsettled and don’t want to talk to anyone else about it.

I guess I want to hear that it’s normal and lots of people have this and it’ll pass soon and to stop being daft.

I’ve had similar dreams in the past. I don’t want to remember them which is why I’m not going to stay on this thread, but they are normal dreams to have, and the feeling you have after is completely normal.

Have you looked at dream definitions? Dreaming of death doesn’t mean the person is going to die, it can indicate a big change in their life on the horizon.

That being said, I recently dreamt my close friend had died and I had to phone her to check she was okay. She was fine and starting a Master’s degree in September.

Thank you for sharing that. It’s unbelievable how much a bad dream can affect you. I really did need to hear that it’s ‘normal’.
Thank you

Im very excited about him going off to Uni. He’ll be in a lovely town about 3 hours away. But maybe I’m also subconsciously anxious about him leaving. If that’s it, I wish it wouldn’t manifest in such an upsetting way.

Thank you for reassuring me and explaining the possible interpretation.

Found this after a quick google, I’m sure it’s to do with him going off to Uni. Even if you’re happy about that your unconscious mind will still be concerned about him being away from home

I've had these dreams before. I think all parents who worry about our kids probably do. They're not premonitions ( because strangely enough I do sometimes dream stuff that goes on to happen, too), but rather anxiety dreams. Deep down it will be something that worries you and that you dread happening. It's just your brain processing your worries. Hopefully it fades as the day goes on.

It’s a dream not a premonition. Who knows what goes on in our brain boxes? I once dreamed I was in possession of my husband’s severed feet. 🤷‍♀️

Yes I've had a similar dream in the past. Had to go into his room to check on him. He's 19.

It's perfectly normal to be upset at a vivid dream. Don't dwell on it. You'll have forgotten all about it in a day or two.

I know how awful this feels after having similar dreams, they can really linger .
I also believe the interpretation about changes and anxiety etc.

I expect it's a combination of him going away and the Jay Slater case in the news and your mind processing your fears about losing him. Totally normal.

Unfortunately I got these tragedy dreams and day dreams periodically once I had children. Not really before that.

I still get them. I wonder how many people do. I think it is in your personality.

I put it down to worry and anxiety.
I won’t describe them either but most are literal, for example we are going in a plane. Walking home late. Car. Stranger danger.

I had to laugh at this, sorry!

Thank you all. I’m just on a little break so time to read and reply. I am very glad to have posted and feel a little better knowing it’s something a lot of people have had. Thank you all for being so kind in replying and putting an anxious mums mind at rest. I think it is the university change. If I’m really honest with myself, I am going to miss him terribly.

It's a sign of anxiety. Your worries about him at uni and his future and stuff have just come out in that way in the dream. Of course it's not real and will pass. I have really horrible scary dreams every night! But they are only dreams.

I agree with this.

I had an absolutely awful dream about DD dying (really upsetting so I don't want to describe it, but it was horrific.) It was just around the time she was starting school and I definitely think it was my subsoncious processing letting her go.

It hasn't happened again and it is totally normal so please don't worry about that.

I don’t think I could deal with nightly bad dreams! I’d be dosing up to pass out or keeping a bottle of emergency wine by the side of my bed!

I once had a dream that my older brother was going to the electric chair ( don't know why) plus we're in the UK.
In my dream I was absolutely devastated watching the clock for the time he was to be electrocuted. I was crying in my sleep.
Think it was probably down to watching something on the tv and worrying about his bad temper.

I used to regularly dream that I'd lost my DS when he was small, it was awful, I'd have to go see him right away.

Big hugs for your son when he gets home, it'll make you feel better.

Oh I've had the lingerers before, they're awful! I've had one about each of my children at some point. I still remember the worst ones very clearly now! Some of them were quite bloody imaginative, even for Dreamland. In one of them one of my sons was a bloody T-Rex that I had to convince the Dreamland Godzilla government I'd raise to be kind and gentle and not eat people. At the time my son was having some behavioural issues (lots of aggression and general misbehaviour), so I think my worry about him becoming a shitty adult manifested itself in my dream - thankfully he's a lovely person now and the phase passed, no need for the army!

But yeah, most of the worst ones I woke up panting and sweating and felt weird all day about it.

@PalaminoPaint I smoke a lot of cannabis. Lol.
Not sure whether that's making it better or worse?!