Contacting partner’s therapist - not sure if it’s the right thing to do

[Pumpkinprince55]

I should probably post this in the MH board but I’m not sure if it will be quiet.
Does anyone know if I can contact my partner’s therapist or if this is entirely out of bounds? He has been acting strangely and also told me some worrying things but promised to bring it up with his therapist. He claims he did but I’m wondering if he’s lying because he still seemed really hyper and elated. It’s not that I want to ask anything about him, but I would prefer if I knew that the therapist knew.

Does he have a mental health condition?

Is he known to the crisis team, op?

Yes know MH condition, and known too. But he sees his therapist privately in case this makes a difference?

Hi Op, Im a qualified counsellor. Is this a safeguarding issue?

If i was contacted by a partner of a client i wouldnt confirm i see them as this breaks confidentiality but i may bring up in session if i felt it necessary, this would be done with ethical guidance from my supervisor.

I wouldnt respond to your email due to the relation ship being with the client and they are over 18.

Yes a safeguarding concern. And I don’t expect them to respond really, I would just prefer knowing that they knew in case he didn’t tell them. But I’m also worried that I’ll be breaching his trust.

I think it's fine to tell the therapist, they obviously cant disclose to you if your OH has mentioned anything, but they will be able to receive the information and alert the authorities etc if appropriate.

When you say acting strangely, I personally feel a more appropriate course of action would be to get him to see his GP and they can refer him to the appropriate service (if there is one) which would be more helpful than him speaking with a private therapist. But maybe my job (I work with people with psychosis) is making me read more into the "acting strangely!"

Thank you all ❤️

I’m a therapist working for the NHS and I’ve had partners contact me before to disclose information. I would say do so if you think it would be helpful, but be aware the therapist may tell you husband that you have disclosed this to them.

I don’t think he’d take that well at all. We aren’t married either. I’ll see how he is today and maybe I’ll just speak to him about my concerns instead of going behind his back.