Am I being over sensitive?

[magicroundabouts]

I am wondering if others would be upset by this or if I am being over sensitive!

Received an email from DC school last week with details of their new class for next year and they are being moved to a lower ability class/pathway (SEN school). No explanation as to why, just a standard your child will be in x class letter. Would you be upset by this? Specifically, the way the decision has been communicated.

To give a bit more context nothing has been mentioned about this by his teachers during the year and end of year report says he is making good progress! We also have a parent teacher evening booked in for this week, so they could have waited and told us face to face.

Is it possible that they wanted to make you aware, so that it could be discussed at the meeting without being a surprise to you?

No, you’re being too sensitive. You’ll get chance to speak to the teachers this week.

I think it's possibly better to have received the information this way before the meeting to give you chance to think about it and think about any questions.

its going to be upsetting either way but, by finding out now, you have chance to prepare for the meeting.

I have no real knowledge of SEN schools but could it be that the style of teaching in the new class may suit your ds better?

Thanks for the replies. I agree that it is probably better to know in advance of the parent meeting and there isn’t an easy way to communicate this.

I am feeling upset for DC and realise this is probably clouding my judgment. I just wish they had told me directly. The only reason I know is because they publish the classes and pathways on the school website. The email just says your child will be in x class with x teacher. I then checked the website and that’s how I found out, as I said nothing was mentioned in the end of year report either!

I think every parent would be upset but is there more you can do at home with him? When my child was hitting the below average scores, we done extra work and now confident and thriving.

I wasn't happy being told he wasn't doing very well academically but learnt he just couldn't focus well in class and it snowballed. No sen by the way but just want you to know, it's normal to feel upset but you can turn it around.