Would you say anything to daughter re boyfriend/breakup?

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Our daughter is nearly 14 and a very private person. On Friday she met a boy after school to wander the shops, came back and admitted/told us he was her boyfriend. A big admission for her, first boyfriend. He hasn't been mentioned since.

Turns out that that evening he called it off. She hasn't said anything, but told her friends one of whom's mother has told me.

My dilemma is, do I say anything to her? I can't decide if my 13 yr old self would have rather it wasn't acknowledged, or whether she'd like me to recognise what's happened?

Like I say, she's quite a private person with us, doesn't tell us a lot, which is why it's quite sad that this happened just after she did have the confidence to tell us about it 🤦‍♂️ I'm her mum and want to offer her love and commiserations etc, but then am I respecting her privacy more by not mentioning him again unless she does?

Teenagers are new to me!

Im not naive, its better to check no matter if you think the are hiding it.

Oops wrong thread!

I would leave a little care package on her pillow, like couple of face masks, a nice bath bomb, or whatever little care things you think she’d like. Either with a note saying something like ‘life sucks sometimes, here if you want to talk’ or if you don’t want to allude to the break up just put something like ‘you’re an awesome daughter, love you’. It may help her feel loved when she’s feeling crappy, without forcing her to have a chat she doesn’t want

This is naive. You won’t find it if they know their phone is being checked.
You need proper parenting controls in place, but even most of those won’t deliver fully what you need.

Im not naive after 5 children. And 16 grandchildren i think i have a good idea of how to keep them safe.