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I don't want to spoil our friendship

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Parrotcoop · 29/06/2024 14:07

I'm single, middle aged, with a fairly busy social life and a wide range of friends.

I've heard this more than once from men, who've got a bit frisky after a drink, even asked me out the odd time, then decided not to continue for fear of spoiling the friendship.

I get it, one in particular, if it had gone horribly wrong would have ruined a friendship group that's very important to me and I wasn't that bothered about the man either, so it was the sensible decision, rather than having a thing that was always going to fizzle out.

However, don't a lot of the best relationships start as friendships? And how do I go about meeting someone who doesn't move in the same circles as me?

I tried OLD for a bit and that was a miserable experience.

OP posts:
Squiggles23 · 30/06/2024 03:41

Hi @Parrotcoop,

Lots of relationships do start as friendships but I think you will know if you have any feelings towards them in that way. If it’s a case you’ve never hung out 1 on 1 then maybe something could grow I guess

OLD is tough and a numbers game but it is a good way to meet people. Otherwise I think it’s just about meeting as many people as possible. Can you join a walking group, tennis club etc (anything with new people). I guess friends of friends is a good way to meet too so not just looking for immediate relationships.

FruitFlyPie · 30/06/2024 04:22

I mean this kindly but I'd think in that situation they'd changed their mind, and that was just a line to let you down gently.

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