My Work Bestie Handed Her Notice in Today

[DeclansAFeckingDream]

Absolutely gutted. Is it childish for a grown woman to talk about a work bestie? Absolutely. But she really is and god I'll miss her

I absolutely support her decision as she wants to spend more time with her toddler, so it's the right move for her.

It's just made me realised how important amazing workmates are and grateful that she's no longer just my teacher colleague, but my friend. Ten years is a long time to be nipping in and out of each others classrooms nicking sweets and whiteboard pens. 😊

I hear you. Yes you are allowed be both disappointed and happy for her. It can be very tough, I have been there.

Not at all.
I still remember the day my work bestie handed in her notice… was absolutely gutted... We still keep in touch often but work hasn’t been the same since and I miss her!

Not childish, legitimate loss as your friend you are used to seeing every day won't be there.

When my work bestie told me she was looking for a new job I burst into tears (I felt terrible about it afterwards as I thought it would look like I was trying to make her feel guilty for leaving, but I was going through a rough time and the thought of her not being there completely knocked me for six).
She left at May half term and we're meeting up soon for a coffee, but it's not the same as being able to pop over to her room for a chat whenever.

Not work but neighbours - they came round to tell me they were moving and we all cried - they said they had been feeling awful about leaving but had to relocate.

I felt like this when my next door neighbour left after 5 years of living next to me and DH - and our DC. My DC were several years older than her son, and they were like a little trio of comrades for 5 years.

Had joint birthday parties (as all 3 birthdays were between 5th and 11th of March,) went to Halloween parties together, played together on the neighbour's trampoline and in our swimming pool, had BBQs (with the 3 kids, and me and DH, and my neighbour and her DH,) and went to playbarns and parks with her and the kids.

We had 7 or 8 beach days together, and had Christmas day together twice too, as her DH's family was 200 miles away, and they only went every other year (her parents passed away several years before her son was born.) She was like a sister to me. Whilst our kids played, we talked for hours. We had lunch together too, and went for a night out at the pub (or for a meal,) 2 or 3 times a month. Sometimes just us two, sometimes us two with our DHs. (Occasionally with the kids too!)

Then she announced one day - 5 years after moving in - (when my DC were 9-10, and her son was 8,) that they were moving. I was devastated. It was such a wrench, and I felt bereft. She and her DH and son were moving to Southern Spain.

Needless to say, I never saw her again. She wrote 3 or 4 times, and sent pics of her home there, and kept in touch for a year or so, and then just stopped writing. Never heard from her since. I was so sad. 😢I wrote around 10 times over the following year and never got a response. And I never knew why. I guess she made new friends and forged a new life and I don't hold it against her, but it hurt me that she stopped the contact.

It's been 20 years since I last saw her, and I have looked for her on Facebook many times, and Linkedin, and Instagram, and Twitter, all over the place. Married name and maiden name. And her son's name too. (And her husband's.) Nothing. It was an amazing 5 years with her - but I was so sad to lose her.

(Haven't looked for her for about 8-10 years, but this thread has just reminded me of her.)

Work is going to be bloody awful without her. I think she's doing the right thing, she's really struggling with missing the time with her little girl and the money she's shelling put on childcare and transport is huge. She's managed to find something close to home that fits in with her daughter and she won't be much worse off. I don't blame her at all, but I actually want to hang onto her leg and make her stay. 😂

The only thing I still miss about my old job is my work wife! She made the place bearable when we were both working, and we had each other’s backs on the worst shifts when we’d have several patients deteriorate in a short space of time.

Still friends, just in a far less stressful environment!