Colleague affair

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My male colleague has had an affair with a "junior" colleague for years (let's call him David)
It is well talked about and raises its head more obviously in social work situations where alcohol is involved- so I have witnessed inappropriate contact first hand. I have tried to avoid any involvement and they are both grown adults.

My daughter has moved school and over the last 3 years has coincidently become increasingly close to his daughter. Inevitably as a result of them spending time together I have had to have increasing contact with David's wife (think organising meets/sleepovers/ birthdays etc). II now feel totally complicit in the affair and don't know what to do.

I don't want to discourage my daughter's close friendship but I feel awful. I don't know David's wife well enough to blow his cover before anyone asks but keeping quiet makes me feel complicit (she is lovely)

I just hope he is shitting himself with this situation!

Any advice?

I take it David knows you are getting closer to and have more contact with his wife?
Can you have a discreet conversation with him along the lines of you are worried you might inadvertently let slip information about office life that might be awkward for him. Put the ball in his court.

Oh god, what an awful situation. He’s a massive twat, obviously but I think you have to say nothing? You don’t know his wife and I would keep it that way. Cheery and chatty pick ups and drop offs but keep them brief and don’t engage further. As a side note, I hope his dick drops off!!!

Honestly, I’d stay well out of it. Keep your interactions with him and his wife limited. You don’t know anything aside from office rumours - it could be a bit of albeit inappropriate flirting or the office junior may actually not be welcoming his perceived attention and he could be harassing her. Not s great or comfortable position for you - but keep things polite and distanced ish friendly wise with him and his wife.