Limboland, how to spend the day while waiting to hear cancer test results

[Maybethisyearornext]

Appointment tomorrow, to hear if cancer has metastasised. I have put on a lot of weight recently, so really struggling not to go and drown my sorrows in a tub of ice cream in front of the TV. I'm trying to have a clear out and take some stuff to the second hand shops. Thinking I might only have a year or two left makes some of this decision making slightly easier! I'll say that for it. If I could only concentrate for long enough, I could have a lovely clear house by this evening

@Maybethisyearornext I'm sorry. It's going to be a very long day for you. Sending some hugs x 🫂💐❤️ fingers crossed 🤞

I'm so sorry and hopefully fingers crossed it hasn't X

Honestly I think I would eat the ice cream! Very difficult day for you and fingers crossed.

I've resisted the ice cream so far! but it might well come to that in the end - one bag ready to take to second hand shop. I am trying to get another one ready, then I will do a trip.

Thanks for the moral support xx

Tub(s) of ice-cream all the way!!! Very best of luck for tomorrow xx

Sorry op my fingers crossed should have been for a good result x

I've walked up to the charity shop twice, with two full bags each time, and am still resisting ice cream! But once the resistance crumbles, I will be eating it all.

When I was in a similar position I spent the day cleaning the house while watching/listening to Friends on my iPad. There's something so comforting about watching Friends for me. Hope it's good news OP.

Thanks. I hope it was good news for you too

No it wasn't good news but 5 years later and I am cancer free 😊

If you've got the "ants in your pants, can't stop moving" nervous energy, small achievable projects, so chuck out of date fridge stuff, sort out a drawer, clean the cutlery portion thingy - no huge projects.

If you can't move from inertia, go with it and binge watch anything comforting.

The trick is to switch it up between the two states, with breaks of quickly walking round the block (if you can manage it), or go to the shop for "something" - bird food, apples, whatever floats your boat.

I find the day cancelled pass pretty well when I do lots of little bits.

This was me, just yesterday, my appointment was around 2:30pm. I spent time sorting charity donations and also went to an exercise class in the morning, where I just about kept it together. I tried grounding and the 5,4,3,2,1, I tried mindfulness. Nope, didn't work. Do you have a Maggie's near you or the hospital? I find peace in there, whether I'm alone or chatting with someone. It is so, so difficult. I know my husband was stressed too, but if it's not you waiting to hear if you have a life to live, you can't possibly understand 😞. Other people's kind thoughts are nice to hear, but they didn't really help me stop wobbling/crying/stressing. That doesn't stop me sending you mine though x

Wow! That is great! and it metastasised and it was still treatable and curable!?

Thank you xx I hope you had good news....

Good luck my lovely, in your pocket tomorrow with fingers tightly crossed 😘

Thinking of you xx

I'm doing that! switching from slumped on the bed scrolling through mumsnet, to manically sorting out a draw or a cupboard I haven't touched in a year!

I am home alone right now, but later, when the family is back, I will have to be normal, and act like nothing is happening. I haven't told them about this. If it all comes to nothing, I will never have to

Surprisingly I did get good news. It had metastasized previously, and that was removed from my brain in February. They say they got 100% plus good margins. Now there's no sign on the scans - brain or body. I cannot describe the weight lifted - I have at least bought a little more time. I will keep up with treatment and have the next lot of scans in a few months, and here we go back to limboland again...

Oh no sorry for not being clear. Was waiting for cancer results and it wasn't good news but it was a primary cancer and am now cancer free.

Limboland is a tricky place to visit.
I will also be keeping my fingers crossed for tomorrow. I admire your will power to keep your hands off that icecream! You’re a tough cookie OP!

wow, fantastic, excellent xx

have not succumbed yet! But I have just had a baked potato so that's staved off the temptation a bit

I think if you've done all that walking you definitely could have some ice cream. I'm hoping for good news for you. Currently going through treatment for cancer myself.

well, I lasted until the family got home, then ate ice cream "normally" with them! however, have blown it all up now with three rounds of toast after everybody else was in bed. 11 more hours to get through....

have not slept much. Only 5 more hour to wait. I'm going to pretend I am off to a normal days work, not to worry anyone in the family, which means getting to the hospital 2 hours early, with a book of word searches.