My grandmother died last Thursday of old age. She was 91.
Due to scheduling issues of the funeral institute, she will be buried 2 weeks later, on July 5th.
It's quite hot in our country, we're not in the UK. We therefore decided against an open coffin as she might decompose despite her body being stored at a cool temperature.
After she died, the carers in her care home washed her and they put a nappy on her and an old shirt.
My sister viewed the body with my mother and helped her and my uncle to clear the room.
My sister reminded my mother several times to consider what clothes my grandmother should wear in her coffin. Despite that, my mother and uncle decided to donate most of her clothes and just said "it would be sorted".
The funeral institute now called us and asked us to bring along some clothes.
My sister kept some of my grandmother's nice blouses and I said I could drop them off at the funeral institute.
My mother initially agreed, but now decided that my grandmother should just be buried as she is, in her old T-shirt and her nappy and that nobody should bring some nice clothes for her to wear.
She threatened to remove my name from the banner on the funeral wreath, if I keep bringing up the topic.
My sister and myself are quite shocked and find it appalling.
We now have a big fight in the family WhatsApp group going on.
None of us deal with dead people on a regular basis, but isn't it normal to bury your family members in their best clothes? Even if the coffin won't be open and the body will decompose anyway?
Thanks for your advice xx