Being flirty, what does it look like?

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My dh is a lovely, genuine, bubbly guy. He is very attentive when speaking with people, lots of joking and laughing. I don't think he does it more with women per se but I do recognise that it could give off the wrong image.

In a wider conversation with a close friend, she said in regards to my dh that he is a charmer, naturally flirty but not in a bad way and he is very kind and big hearted.

I think my husband would be shocked to hear of himself described as a flirt.

So my question is, can one be flirty without the presence of a sexual undertone?

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My ex-DH always said I flirted with everyone, male and female. He didn't mean it as an insult. I always took it that I was really friendly. Definitely no sexual overtones to anyone from me.

"So my question is, can one be flirty without the presence of a sexual undertone?"

No. It's flirting when it has the sexual undertone. Otherwise, it's being open, happy and engaging with people on a humane level - a well rounded 'nice' person.

Other people can interpret it as flirting if they lack confidence or are feeling a bit neglected and suddenly get this nice, open, happy engaging person talking to them, taking an interest.

Edit: I also think that some people with 'twinkly, smiling eyes' can seem like they're flirting when they're not. Combine that with an open, happy, etc. person and it really can give the wrong impression in some circumstances.

Thanks for sharing

I always thought being very friendly and flirty were two different things but now I'm not so sure.

There's friendly and flirting, it can be a fine line, but I guess most can see or sense it. Keep to the friendly side of the line.

Tom Cruise apparently has a way of making you feel like you are the only person on the planet when he speaks to you. Male or female. It could probably be interpreted as flirting by some, but it could just be being gregarious and interested. In his case, I think it goes with his job, and he's developed it. For us mere mortals, it's just being outgoing.

I was once told when slightly drunk and trying to make flirtatious eye-contact that I looked like I was having a stroke.

Thank you for these perspectives, keep em coming

I think he probably just has charisma. You'd know instinctively if he was flirting. Listen to your gut.

Thank you. My instinct was always that he is very friendly but I never classed him as a flirt. He is just genuinely a lovely guy. He would go out if his way for anyone

But my friend got me thinking ofcourse.

That was the word I couldn't think of when talking about Tom Cruise 🤦‍♂️

in my experience, serious flirts don’t say very much at all, they just hold your gaze for a few seconds longer than necessary.

It’s all in the eyes.

Good point

Flirting is a step further than just having a laugh/bantz with someone. It's often a knowing glance or a more obvious compliment, sexual undertones etc. It's usually a bit seedy if not reciprocated!