Odd group holiday, sharing arrangements

[RiverF]

So, I go away with friends quite often. I'm happy to share with anyone in the group, but draw the line at married men, out of respect for their wives.

This time we have

Two single men
Married couple
Married man coming without his wife
Me

Then, my 21yo son has asked to join because we're doing something that appeals to him. This is excellent news because he's had a terrible couple of years and hasn't shown any interest in anything for ages. The group is absolutely fully supportive of this. He knows them all, but not especially well.

Then married couple's adult son announced he will be unexpectedly in the country for the week we're away. It is suggested that rather than they cancel, son comes with us. All good with everyone. The two sons do not know each other. Married couple's son is also married, age c.25yo.

The original booking was:

Room 1 married couple
Room 2 two single men
Room 3 married man
Room 4 me.

So we have enough beds for the "boys" to come. Accomodation is very remote and there are no more rooms available.

I had expected DS would share with me and friend's son would share with married man, but there's been a suggestion that a young man sharing with his mum is inappropriate.

Is it and if so, how would you split the rooms? I have shared with one of the single men before and it was all fine, but they booked their room first. It was originally a trip for the two if them and has expanded 🤣

I'd leave it as it is...?

Wouldn't have to be a romantic trip for me to insist on sharing with DH rather than random friends! Splitting up the married couple seems crazy.

He probably doesn't realise the alternative is that I share with a man 😯

In the nicest way - if you’re happy and your son is happy then why on earth does your Dad’s opinion matter?

It doesn't really, except I wondered if it was me whose view was weird

Why? They might love some time apart

Your dad is a crank

Your dad's been reading too much Freud.

Absolutely fine for you to share with DS!

On a recent trip there were 5 adults - two male-female couples and one single female. I was one of the females in a couple. I shared with the single female, the other married female had her own room (I was a bit jealous) and the two men shared. Worked well.
I would share a twin room with DS (17).

This is craziness! 3 rooms, two couples, one single -why on earth wouldn't the single one have her own room and each of the couples share in their couple?

It was one of those experimental holidays.

Of course you should share with your son, your dad is being very very silly.

This

Fishfire because it was a trip for the Six Nations and the men are both snorers, as is the other female of the couple! I only agreed to go if I didn't have to share with a snorer........

Leave the rooms as they are, you share with your son. The other son shares with the married man.

Ask your dad if he thinks it is less inappropriate for you to share a room with an unrelated man (married to someone else or not).

If I was away with my husband and everyone had to share rooms, I would find it strange to be expected to share with someone other than my husband. I definitely wouldn't sleep as well sharing with a friend instead of the person I always sleep next to.

Do you share a room with your snorer husband at home? Was the other married couple as happy at being split up as you were?

dont you just say to your dad that the other option is me a married man and a single man in a triple bunk, and I gotta tell you when a man who sleeps naked climbs into a bunk there is nothing not on display?

I don’t think that sharing with your son is weird at all. I’ve just been away for a week with my son who is 15 and we shared a bed - we stayed at a friends house and there was a queen and they also set up a camp bed for ds. He didn’t want the camp bed so we just shared the queen.

Of course a DS can share a room with his DM, can't see the issue. I do find it truly weird though that some people are suggesting that the married couple don't share a room.

I’m going away for a few days with 25yo DS soon. He is happy to share a twin room or a double with a pull out sofa bed as we are splitting costs and anything else would be a lot more $ as it is an expensive city. We’ll get changed in the en suite, the same as he did when he shared with his 20yo sister last year (we checked they were still happy to share and the answer was yes as we were paying and again, they knew any other arrangement made it really expensive). Not sure why your dad finds it strange.

I wouldn't share a bed with DS though, although to be fair I wouldn't share a bed with anyone except DH and sometimes he is under sufferance. So I'm assuming we are talking about twin beds here.

Personally I wouldn't want to go on holiday with anyone who suggested that me sharing a room with my 21 year old son was "inappropriate"!

I'm not 😉

Schoolchoicesucks yes I do, but often I sleep in spare room and yes it was a mutual decision which everyone was very happy with.

Absolutely fine for you to share a room with your son.
I shared a room with my 21yr old DS for 10 nights.Wouldn't share a bed but twin beds in same room is ok.