Laundry drying, wet weather, visitors, no utility room

[Stotar]

What do people do when there's no utility room and there's wet weather and a lot of it like all of the past year and you have laundry to do and visitors?

I did a laundry wash on Saturday and I don't have a lot of period underwear and I decided I needed to wash them too. I like to wear period underwear in the days leading up to my period and in the days after when I am likely to stain easily. I needed my batch of period underwear washed. They are not white by the way.

I did a laundry wash on Saturday and the morning was nice and dry but then the rain came in and I had to take the laundry in. Amongst the laundry was my period underwear. I had no problem hanging them to air dry on the clothes horse located in the corner of the kitchen.

My mother became enraged at me this morning due to drying my underwear and we have visitors staying with us who is family by the way. I saw no issue. It was my mother who became embarressed of some of my underwear hanging up. But they weren't even on show. I actually didn't care. Sure the visitors are family and we all have underwear. It was my mother who was nearly claiming the visitors are looking and perving on my underwear and I really doubt that very much.

My mother had an intense reaction of pure hate and anger due to me having underwear drying.

Was I expected to shovel them deep into my laundry basket and just leave them there for three months until the visitors are gone. If I have clothes and laundry to wash I am going to do it.

Oh my the way one of the visitors is my brother and she gladly washes his underwear and leaves them hanging up to dry but she took offence to mine.

your house or hers out of interest?

i think time for you to move out

Hmm I would have put my washing in a room that guests wouldn’t go in to as I wouldn’t personally want anyone to see my knickers drying.

Is it your house ?

Hang them up in another room if you can. I think it depends who the visitors are. If it was a close friend or family member I wouldn't care if they saw it, but regardless of that, washing hanging round everywhere looks a mess.

There's no spare room in the house or there is a spare room but it's very cold and damp and mouldy and not for really for putting valuables or anything good in the room.

Clothes horse in my bedroom, wouldn’t hang my pants up for visitors to see.

But outrage, hate, anger!? Unless you are exaggerating, your mum sounds unhinged.

@Stotar your house, your rules. Argue back or ignore her. My mother once raged at me, in my London flatshare, for going three doors down the street in a track suit and no bra to buy a pint of milk. It was a quick, if loud, exchange. Mother: 'Aren't you going to put a bra on?' Me: 'No, mum. The shop is two doors away.' Mother: 'I really don't think you should be going out without a bra.' Me: 'Tea as soon as possible or I get dressed. You decide.' The tea won. Seriously though, your mum's reaction sounds overblown. Is there more going on?

Yes, they were clean, but having period underpants on display in the KITCHEN is grim IMO with guests visiting!

If the drying rack didn't fit into my room, I would have hung them on coat hangers and hooked them over my wardrobe doors, end of the bed, curtain pole etc.

I don't like drying clothes in my room. It's also bad and encourages mold. I open windows daily but still. I just don't like drying clothes in my room. There were plain black underwear.

Period underwear looks no different to any other underwear.

Your mother thinks your brother is 'perving' at your knickers?! She sounds absolutely deranged.

At this point I'd be tying them together like bunting and hanging them around the walls in a festive fashion.

it’s your mum’s home isn’t it op?

There's other reactions over very little too and I am now posting in the elderly forums and I see behavioural and mood stuff with her and I think she has the onset of dementia but it's presenting as behavioural and mood stuff. Her GP is requesting memory loss as is the rest of my siblings too.

This sounds like a sensible way forward, OP. I hope you gain some clarity and a treatment plan that makes a positive difference.

You're not going to get mould from drying in your room at this time of year unless you turn it into an actual laundry and also keep all the windows shut. You might not like drying clothes in your room, but it sounds as though it's her house and she doesn't like having your laundry drying in front of her visitors. Her reasoning might be illogical but her feelings are as valid as yours.

You might not like drying clothes in your room, but how long are your visitors staying? Sounded like it was a bit of an emergency. A few pants, one off, isn’t going to cause mold.

I dont do washing when I have visitors and would catch up after they left. But I don’t have anyone stay longer than about 36 hours!

They are staying for three months and they are coming and going but still it's three months but there's an extra person in my room too.

Personally I would have put them on a dryer in my bedroom because I wouldn't want everyone to see my knickers, but I don't think there's anything wrong with what you did if you don't care.

If you're not happy with your mum's rules then you need to move out.

This is it. We all wear underwear. I wasn't able to control the weather. I am to wash during dry days but I also have a full time job to hold down too and sometimes finding a dry day is hard. Sometimes that dry day might only come mid week when I am not even at home. I do usually get up early and plan my laundry around the weather and get stuff out on the line.

It was a complete overhaul reaction from her.

The thing is she happily washes my brothers clothes and even underpants and even his wife's clothes and if it's wet outside they also go hanging up on the clothes horse.

So why did she pick on me?

Period underwear looks no different to any other underwear

I don't know if OP means period pants, or knickers she wears with say a tampon/pad. I assumed they were regular knickers with period stains on them- despite being washed?

OP- I assume you options are- move out, buy a clothes dryer, use a laundrette or just don't wear knickers 😂

Ok you don't like drying washing in your room, your mum does not like you drying it in the kitchen!!

So you both have a preference
If its her house she wins'

We've luckily got a laundry room but before we had it I used to tumble dry everything, a heat pump dryer can take anything. Or for very delicate things I used to put a clothes horse in our en suite so no one would see it except us.

Period pants - they are the special period knickers with a built in pad. But I also know how to launder knickers so not to stain them. They are soaked in cold water first for a few hours or even over night and then washed regularly.

But either way they are black