What do you no longer do ?

[FlowersAndFairiesAndPie]

I don't listen to boring co workers stories of woe and get involved and make myself counsellor. I make the right noises and move on. Been reeled in with all that crap before.

I work to my wage and don't over exert myself whilst others are sitting round gossiping.

I only partake in 2 way relationships. Anyone wish to share what they no longer do?

I no longer talk to my sisters.

I no longer

Iron
Say yes to events I don’t want to attend
Make novelty birthday cakes for DC
Send Christmas cards
Drink heavily
Keep in touch with people out of obligation

I'm no longer a people pleaser.
It's worked wonders.

I no longer get up at 3am for holiday flights, especially not just for short city breaks. Infact, I no longer go on short city breaks at all - if there's a European city I want to visit I build a 2 week holiday around it.

One of my (I thought) closest friends invited me on a 2 day trip to Malta, in March last year, involving a very early flight from an airport many miles away. I politely declined and she hasn't spoken to me since!

I no longer fret about stuff like the above.

I don't make excuses not to go places, in fact I'll go to the opening of an envelope now! But it must be daytime, I don't go out at night anymore unless it's a celebration or a wedding.

I don't do beach/sunbed/fly and flops anymore. No need to wax, pluck and worry about cellulite/belly ha ha.

I don't criticise people as much as I used to. Tolerance is increasing....

I don't do things I really don't want to do, or see people I don't particularly want to see either.

I'm similar to many previous posters in what they don't do, I just haven't time to write it all down! Getting older gives me the freedom to NOT do things now. One benefit of ageing I suppose, Hallelujah.

I no longer do any of the stupid things I used to do before I found Mumsnet. Thank you to all of you for helping me to see sense.

Also I no longer entertain rude and silly questions like when am I having another child and how cruel I am to leave my child all alone.

Fly. Took the DC to France by train and realised how much I prefer slow travel. Going to Europe for work next month: train. Trying to work out if I can make it to Trieste by train in day but I think that’s pushing it too far.

Go on coach trips with no toilet.
Fly at 6am in the morning.

Drink or eat other folks sub standard tea coffee cake or snacks just to be polite.

Don't tolerate chuggers in the street or on doorstep. Don't take flyers or random shit off strangers on street.

I am post menopausal and give no shits.

Apologise for things that aren't my fault.
Volunteer my time for anything that doesn't being me joy.
Keep my house visitor-ready.
Answer the phone or door if I don't feel like it.
Make small talk.
Parent other people's children.
Host play dates.

Watch or listen to the news. A quick glance at the BBC website when I get up and that's it. It's too depressing/infuriating and there's nothing I can do about any of it.

Smoke. Drink. Worry about what people think of me,

Smoke. Iron. Stay out once I know I'm tipsee and ready for bed. Only work to my contracted hours. Drink during the week. Wear high heels- my back has thanked me for it!

No longer worry about a beach ready body for holidays. If I want to wear a bikini, I'll blinking wear one. However, old or whatever size I am.

I love this thread!

I no longer visit my MIL. She's not awful, just utterly disinterested in my DC and very keen on the daily mail. 20 years of trips down there then I hit menopause. So that's a relief. DH can go alone.

Have visitors I don't know very well or care about. Not cleaning and cooking for strangers ever again.

Not wearing stilettos. I like wedges but am very short so need a bit of lift.

Not wearing bikinis ever again. Solid swimming costume with proper arse covering please. Shorts are even better. Who decided women need to wear such revealing swimsuits whilst men wear comfy baggy shorts?

Me too. I have learned to say no, because I dont want to. End of

I no longer listen to witter.
if you want to describe your colleagues tea habits in detail, do it with someone else.

Ironing

Defer to other people at work if it's my area I will say what needs to happen and not in a faffy way.
Go out when I don't want to or like others have said feel pressured to stay late or be the life and soul.
I no longer feel guilty for not keeping up relationships, I remember that the people I am fretting about haven't come to me, they haven't suggested a meet up or dropped a birthday card in.

Don’t have fun or laugh as easily as I used to yet simple things give me pleasure (nice views, sunny days, my kids)

I stopped caring what people think of me a while ago when I basically reasoned there's diddly squat I can do about it anyway.

I wear what I want when I want.

If I find people dull I don't bother with them.

I like my own company without needing wine,

I act my wage and only do what is expected of me as I have no interest in promotion within the company.

I live within my means - I no longer use credit cards or overdrafts and keep them for real emergencies. I go without and save where I can for big purchases. I try never to borrow money even though sometimes I feel like I desperately need to.

I no longer allow myself to depend on motivation to get things done. I just do it even when I'm sad, mad, in discomfort and not wanting to do it. It's made my life more organised and my small workout routines more consistent even if I bloody hate it in the moment.

Feel obliged to help and befriend and 'rescue' that person who everyone else is avoiding like the plague for very good reasons. 99% of the time their helpless exterior hides the fact that they are demanding and engulfing dicks, and they will take you down with them like a drowning person.

After a lot of self-work - and the menopause - I am done wid dat shizzle...

Also the high heels and underwired bra thing.

Go to church - no more volunteering hours of my life
Host (see above) multiple people for dinner with zero reciprocation
Wear high heels
Get to work early and leave late
Do the crazy stressful drop off to the childminder before work (they are older)
Have to be at home because my children are at home (hello evening bookclub)