So my 2 ds who are 8&9 . See their dad every other weekend. Fri -sun
Sometimes ex wants to change to weekend or shorten it. I don't have a problem with this it's fine. The boys don't really have much concept of time. Or if you just keep it positive. Sometimes daddy is taking you to his on Saturday. So that means we have time to go to the park on Friday after school. Its never been an issue.
For the first time in roughly 2 years. I have asked their dad . If he can swap the weekend or shorten it. As both boys have a birthday party to go to. They only go to one party a year. And it's their best friend.
So instead of saying wow that be great going to your friends party it will be great etc etc.... instead he blurts out next time you see me it's only for the one day. Because your busy. Their dad walks out and ds starts crying.
When ex has wanted to swap /reduce its a non issue because I don't make it one. I don't really want to be overly strict with the it's your week and that's that. Because then the boys will miss out on Party.
And no he can't take them. He lives 2 hours drive from the Party. He makes excuses. I can't force him.
To be honest he is telling them the truth but I think he's purposely saying it in a negative way.