triggered by another post, i was curious, how many of you are close to their ex's?
my ex and i agreed when we split that the kids always had to come first. initally we did all the big events together, so christmas, birthdays etc.. when we both met new partners, we then did our own thing mostly.. big birthdays or events and we would all get together..
when covid happened, my ex was diagnosed terminal, and during that period as him and his wife were restricted to inside the house, we helped out, did their shopping etc, we became their support bubble.. we spent christmas together as a unit, and even after covid happened, we continued to host events, christmas, birthdays.. if we had a day out planned, we always included the ex and his mrs.. it seemed the right thing to do.
we always asked the kids what they wanted to do, and they always asked us to invite dad and the mrs.
when he went into end of life care, we were there too. in the end, i classed my ex as on of my best friends. i sobbed at his funeral.. i sobbed for the friendship that had gone, i sobbed for the father my kids had lost.. and i was accussed of still loving him.
i did love him, but not like a woman loves a husband or partner, i loved him like a friend and i loved him as the father of my children.
I think i was lucky, my ex (well this one anyway) wasn't violent or a drunk, he wasn't the most faithful of husbands, hence the spilt.. but we stayed friends because of the kids.
anyone else?