Will he change?

[Littlrfish]

Our 2.5 yo is really going through an anxious stage but in particular ways?

he goes to nursery and walks in no bother there and. He’s good with family and even when we are out on a walk if I chat to a neighbour he’s okay just pulls me along if we’re a bit too chatty as he’s bored standing ! Haha

we went the farm today and he shrieked at most of the animals was terrified. Hes been to farms countless of times since birth. He loves old McDonald had a farm and sings it a lot and asks sometimes to go

He’s been nervousAbout dogs on walks but seemed okay today I just reassure him that they’re nice dogs and he’s seeming to get the hang of it

even out and about he doesn’t want to play along side kids at the playground he’ll want the slide to himself etc

he has a 4.5mo little brother. And I’ve felt guilty since having him

Will he grow out of this phase and can he build confidence and be a confident kid?

Ive been paranoid as I have been slightly depressed with dc2 but still give it my all for the kids I just feel not like me and so down and me and my partner hit a rough patch and he (my partner) is going through an ADHD diagnosis has paid private for it so it’s been a heavy few months

and I’m worried our little boy knows all of this and is stressed or upset it’s stressful enough having a crying baby with us constantly. DS2 is a bit of a crier just more vocal but I’m so worried it’s affecting my eldes
they say brain develops up to 4 doesn’t it?? So he still has time to grow into being confident and I can help

My title is phrased more of a worry that he’ll always be anxious :(( he’s perfect in every way

I have anxiety (receiving help for it) and it’s been so consuming in my life I wouldn’t want that for either of my babies that’s why I’m worried

Anyone ? I didn’t see the previous commebt that’s been deleted

Don't worry about it, that was someone 'entertaining' themselves on various threads.

He should be fine, just encourage him to interact and stay calm around him.

He's at an age where he's realised that he's a separate being to you, and the wider world can be a bit scary! When you're a tiny being, a big animal can look monstrous. The best thing that you can do for him is acknowledge his fears and be loving and reassuring.

Thanks sorry I’m just so worried I’ve damaged him by having another kid and I worry as DH has went through stuff with his diagnosis and I think has he noticed has it consumed him? I mean DH seems lighter since it but it’s been a tough process

i just have mum guilt constantly

Yes he will change. He is 2.5 - he is so young.

it’s true that the early years are important with regard to brain development but the brain doesn’t stop developing until humans are in their mid 20s. And the brain can also continue to change throughout our lives.

you must be exhausted with your two little ones. I hope you are feeling well supported and don’t be afraid to ask others to help to give you a break.

its also true that things like adhd are often hereditary so maybe also keep that in the back of your mind to keep an eye on.

he sounds like he is doing really well!

it’s really hard when you have two so young so remember to take care of yourself as much as you can during this time.

Also it’s true that some people are more anxious than others. Try and allow him to do things at his own pace and just gently encourage. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being cautious around dogs. Very sensible really!

try not to worry OP

I am drained really I just feel so upset all the time and guilty for the two of them because I can’t split myself in 2

and I mentioned what worries me about my eldest I have been a bit down and worried my youngest picked up on thag

no of course I have anxiety so I do know some people are more prone , I just don’t want him to be as it’s consumed my life it worries me. Like today when we were in a pet store and he screeeeeamed at the rabbits in the cages