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NervyMum · 2024-06-22T17:23:51+00:00

My only child (18yo) is in Tenerife at the moment. I can't stop worrying. He's fine and has sent photos. What with the recent news concerning Michael Mosley and Jay Slater, I can't stop worrying. I've got another 5 days to get through. My mind won't stop thinking of bad things, like drowning in the sea, horrendous sunburn etc. I so wish I could stop worrying. HELP.

AStepAtaTime · 22/06/2024 20:11

Awww don’t worry! He’ll be ok x I am the same as you, I think if they’re honest most parents do have the fear when their kids start branching out on their own. It’s a real adjustment for everyone involved. But it is also part of becoming a rounded adult. Yes you have a duty of care if you like to let go but as long as he’s in touch with you occasionally I’d breathe, and try to relax.

Don’t keep reading the news. It makes people’s anxiety significantly worse. I hate the news now, it does nothing whatsoever for my well-being. I’ve stopped tuning into it.

Do things you enjoy in the day, some gardening perhaps, get out for a nice walk in the countryside and keep a simple routine. Go to bed at a good time and read a book, arrange to catch up with a friend over coffee.

I have 2 sons and they’re not quite at the age yours is yet but I may well need this advice myself in a few years!! It’s ok to feel as you do, it’s a normal parental reaction. It’ll be ok. Time will fly and he’ll be back very soon.

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NervyMum · 22/06/2024 20:22

AStepAtaTime · 22/06/2024 20:11

Awww don’t worry! He’ll be ok x I am the same as you, I think if they’re honest most parents do have the fear when their kids start branching out on their own. It’s a real adjustment for everyone involved. But it is also part of becoming a rounded adult. Yes you have a duty of care if you like to let go but as long as he’s in touch with you occasionally I’d breathe, and try to relax.

Don’t keep reading the news. It makes people’s anxiety significantly worse. I hate the news now, it does nothing whatsoever for my well-being. I’ve stopped tuning into it.

Do things you enjoy in the day, some gardening perhaps, get out for a nice walk in the countryside and keep a simple routine. Go to bed at a good time and read a book, arrange to catch up with a friend over coffee.

I have 2 sons and they’re not quite at the age yours is yet but I may well need this advice myself in a few years!! It’s ok to feel as you do, it’s a normal parental reaction. It’ll be ok. Time will fly and he’ll be back very soon.

Thank you! Yes to gardening.

I'm actually pleased he's there. It'll be a good experience for him.

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Cattery · 22/06/2024 21:54

Chenecinquantecinq · 22/06/2024 19:42

Wow. Yes there is it’s pandering to an obvious parental anxiety issue. Perhaps the parent (of which I’m sure there are many on here) deal with their anxiety problems rather than offload onto their children and expect their children to make them feel better. My point re only children is with more than one child the parental anxiety tends to lessen as it’s spread across several children. I’m blunt but I’m right.

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I have two adult sons and I worry equally about both of them. It’s not lessened because I have two; in fact it’s doubled because there are two to worry about. You’re certainly blunt but in my case you’re wrong

Shootingstars999 · 23/06/2024 16:48

My son went to Magaluf when he was 18 with his mates.
honestly he will be absolutely fine.
it’s only natural to worry.
your son and his friends will stick together and have a ball.
he will come back and tell you all the fun he had!!! 💐

Busybee44 · 27/06/2024 23:02

Hope Jay Slater is found soon x

oakleaffy · 30/06/2024 01:25

Busybee44 · 27/06/2024 23:02

Hope Jay Slater is found soon x

So do I.

We were in Clifton/Hotwells Bristol today, visiting and fresh looking posters with a £20,000 reward are up for another missing young man. { Student }

So worrying...He was last seen in Hotwells.

Can't imagine the anguish the parents of the missing are going through.

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/missing-student-bristol-jack-sullivan-police-b2563066.html

Udouju · 02/07/2024 10:31

Hi @NervyMum - I totally understand your anxiety regarding your son being away, tbh I would totally feel the same. Hopefully he's home now, safe & sound and your worries are now in the past.