WWYD?
Please bear with me as this is a long one 🤦🏼♀️
One of my friends (not a close one) was clearing out her wardrobe and invited me to see if I would like anything before she sent the bags to charity. I thought this was lovely and I took her a big bunch of flowers to say thank you.
In reality, only a few items fitted (most were too big) and a few things just weren’t to my taste. Away, I ended up coming away with a bin bag full of clothes including several items that I took out of sheer politeness as I didn’t want to offend. The clothes were a mix of cheaper brands such as Primark and some more expensive LK Bennett, All Saints dresses etc but all from a long time ago including peplum style (for example) which I just didn’t have the heart to say I simply wouldn’t wear anymore.
When I got home, I found some of the clothes were stained, had holes or bobbled so went straight out for recycling.
Anyway, on the way out of her house I thanked her for being so kind and generous and she said if you want to thank me you can pay for my dinner when we next go out which I nodded along to.
So fast forward to dinner last night where we went for a group meal with 5 other people. We ended up staying in the restaurant all evening and when the bill came it was £65 per person. I had remembered that she had mentioned me paying for dinner but I felt so flustered about the cost of it that by the time I had decided what would be a reasonable thing to do, everyone had just paid for their own.
Now I feel terrible and I’ve been stewing on it. I’m not really in a position to be spending £65 on a meal as a thank you, and I realise I shouldn’t have nodded along to this in the first instance.
I’m worried she’ll think I’m really mean as she kept saying oh this is a £300 dress, or I paid £170 for this dress etc. I would never spend that much on clothes so the cost to me is irrelevant but it must’ve meant a lot to her.
WWYD? I don’t know whether to mention it and apologise for ‘forgetting’, offer to pay next time in the hope of going somewhere cheaper, or just bury it given I already gave her flowers. Feeling super awkward about it all 😬