What do you class as 'tidy' - are my standards too high?

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I'll try and keep it brief. Apologies for lack of finer details but this could be very very outing. I just need some outside opinions as I'm starting to doubt myself If this is a me problem?

If you were house sitting what would your level of cleanliness be before you left? Would you consider the below to be a piss take?

• 10-15 dog poos left in garden un cleared.
• multiple glasses left on bed side table
• razors/hairs left all over bathroom.
• kitchen bins full
• week old takeaways leftovers (multiple) in the fridge
• bits of food all in the sink and over kitchen table
• cans/food containers left laying around.

There were more but as I say the specifics would be quite outing. Seeing it written down makes me feel like I'm not BU. And for the record these were not teenagers staying, they were fully grown adults!

I'm starting to think my level of cleanliness is a bit much for some people and I know there's a certain "untidy" but clean. Im the sort of person that can't leave a hotel without folding the towels up and making the bed.

I'm not too sure what I'm after really, just feeling a bit pissed off and not sure if I'm being OTT.

I wouldn’t describe myself as at all a tidy person, but that’s disgusting, and would be by anyone’s standards, surely?

That’s grim and disrespectful to come back to that. Lazy arses

thats not tidy, however depends on the context. When you say “house sitting” are these people who have done you a huge favour and looked after your dogs whilst away ? In which case - I’d suck it up.

My house wasn’t like that when I left my teens alone and went on holiday.

I can’t go away without cleaning bathrooms, kitchen, dusting and vacuuming, making beds and ensuring everything is clean and dust free.

And also, surely when you’re house sitting, you’re guided by the standards of the people whose house you’re staying in — so not ‘Would I leave food and containers lying around the kitchen for days?’ but ‘Am I leaving this house in the same state I found it?’

Thank you! It's not just me is it? It's gross.

I'm absolutely fuming. It's not ok.

I am very much a clean freak, can't have things laying around on the sides, has to be put away. Cant deal with the bins being overflowed, it gets taken out as soon as the bloody lid doesn't close!

Agreed. If this is a professional housesitter you’ve paid hundreds of pounds to, absolutely unacceptable. If it’s a friend or family member who has done it for free and saved you hundreds of pounds - not great, but I’d suck it up to be honest.

That's really grim.

I hired live-in pet sitters for more than a decade and always left the house looking like a hotel room, even if I was still giving the kitchen and bathroom a final shine with my suitcase waiting outside the door. Used my best linens and towels for her.

Your standards are not too high, OP.

If this is a professional housesitter you’ve paid hundreds of pounds to, absolutely unacceptable. If it’s a friend or family member who has done it for free and saved you hundreds of pounds - not great, but I’d suck it up to be honest.

I agree with this, except to say that while outwardly appearing to accept it if it were friends or family, I would judge them forever. Filthy beasts.

Never mind my comment, i thought OP was the sitter.

My sitter always left the place spotless.

Appreciate the responses!

Haven't saved hundreds by having them there at All. It was more convenient for them to be there to save on hotels! (Long story!) the house was by far not at all like that when they arrived, and never is. As some posters have said, my children often leave it cleaner than that!

Although even if you've paid someone hundreds to dog sit, wouldn't part of that pay at least cover cleaning up the dog poo at least?!

I am a really untidy person (although cleanish) and this is outrageous!

I'm very happy that I posted now, I've been stewing in my own anger for weeks! Also being made to feel I'm the issue for being too tidy!

Absolutely - if this was someone you’d paid I’d say it was dreadful and you should complain.

So they were essentially using your house as a hotel? Absolutely definitely unacceptable then.

I must admit that I am not a particularly or naturally tidy person.

But I have done a fair bit of house sitting in the past, both paid and unpaid. I always aimed for (as per Mission Impossible) zero residual presence. They should never know that I have been there. Well, other than the fresh milk in the fridge and flowers in a vase on the kitchen counter.

I'm never going to get World's Best Housekeeper, but that's foul. And utterly disrespectful to leave that and expect you'll clear up after them

I don't have high standards at all, but that is disgusting and would have stank.
It's so disrespectful and not exactly hard to do.
My teens would've left it cleaner than I had.
Your standards aren't too high at all.
This is basic hygiene and I dread to think what their house(s) are like!

This is the thing, it's the total disrespect. I'm not asking for a maid service from them, but to not even leave it how they found it! Piss take.

I was a bit "messy" and also left glasses laying around, I probably wouldn't even notice another one. But it's the sheer laziness. If you've finished your can of drink, put it in the bin. You're not a child.

Yes, it pisses me if that it then falls to me to clean, on top of everything else I've already got going on.

As I say, even though I've not given tonnes of details, I appreciate the responses. It's just highlighted how disrespectful, lazy and rude they are. Safe to say they definitely won't be back! It's the total lack of acknowledgement or even apology when I called them out on it, just the blame thrown at me!

Anyone else reached the stage of "I'm done with being nice and doing everything for everyone else" or am I just fed up and miserable 🤣

That was meant to say *if I was a bit messy!

Clearly I'm angry typing... 🙈

I clicked on this thinking "she'd hate me" as I really am messy but that's a whole different level because of the uncleanliness.

Have you already paid?

The kitchen bins being full (so long as not overflowing) and a couple of cups/packets being left out (so essentially not dealt with immediately) is probably ok. Not great but ok.

The rest is disgusting.

I’d be pissed off too. That’s really rude.

But don’t make the bed and fold the towels at hotels. Put the towels in the sink so they don’t have to bend down and don’t make the bed as if will actually be heavier to lift the duvet if it’s folded under the mattress. Otherwise I’m like you. No mess.

It reminds me of how planes get left at the end of a flight - papers, pillows, blankets and rubbish strewn around with no effort to pick them up because 'hey, someone is paid to do that, I can be as much of a pig as I like.'

And gagging at the dog shit being left.