My DH for as long as I remember has always been this way. It wasn't so bad at the begining but I feel it has got worse over time.
I'm not sure I'm explaining it well but he kind of gets really moody gradually so it's not something that triggers it and before you know it he locks himself up in the bedroom, doesn't talk to me, ignores me if I do or barely answers. He doesn't really interact much with the kids anyway so that completely stops.
It leaves me feeling like I've done something wrong. If I ask him what's wrong, does he need time alone, etc he shrugs it off like everything is fine and it's me that's making this up. It's impossible to talk to him about it and I have given up.
He's quite passive aggressive and you end up just picking up vibes from him as to gauging if he's okay about things or not as he is never direct.
I can't leave him due to finances but on a day to day I try to just live my life as best as I can with my children. I have felt that I have raised them on my own. I am the one who teaches them about life, how to do things, discipling them, spending time with them. I've done it all on my own.
I know it's not healthy but I want to learn to get better at compartmentalizing my relationship. It's the one and only thing in my life that brings me so much sadness.