How do you deal with a job you aren’t enjoying?

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How do you not let it stress you out or ruin your weekends? As I get older I think I’m becoming less resilient. The stress is stressing me out more and starting to be on my mind all the time even when I’m not at work.

Probably not the most practical solution but I left. Have to say it was absolutely the right choice.

Yes I am going to start looking but worried I won’t find anything quickly and don’t want to be feeling like this whilst I have to stay there! What was it you didn’t like about the job you left?

I 💯 sympathise, and have been wondering and thinking about the very same thing.
I am going back to college in September to re train in the hope of going part time in what I do now. Is that an option for you OP? Knowing I have a plan is helping a bit.
Otherwise day to day I employ a mixture of the following-
Another day another dollar type thoughts.

This too will pass type thoughts.

Making sure I exercise / eat properly / take a break during the day.
At weekends try and do a couple of nice things, a coffee out, a nice walk, bath, read the paper with a cuppa .
Work takes over. But there is much more to life. We have to fight back where and when we can .

Management mainly. And their total lack of support.

How long have you been in this job? If it is new, give yourself a year.

@blueshoes I’ve been there nearly three years now.

At a previous job which was boring as hell I could only cope with it by productivity.

I was racing against myself and got some satisfaction from how much I could get done.

What is causing you stress about the job?

"How do you deal with a job you're not enjoying?"

You grow a backbone and leave.

Look for another job first then resign from current job. Have you thought about starting up in business yourself maybe might be an option.

Perhaps we don't get less resilient as we get older but instead we see through all the bullshit and realise it's just not worth tolerating it.

I deal with this by leaving. After I'd got out my only regret was not doing it sooner. Don't stay unhappy. There's always another option.

Move jobs, life is way too short. I stayed 9yrs in a job I hated, completely bought into the we are a family bullshit. Never Ever again.
Always do what's right for you, the company doesn't deserve you.

Thank you everyone. I have thought about going down the self employed route @Dolphinswimmer but I don’t know if I’m brave enough and if financially it’s too much of a gamble.

The first time it happened I retrained and the second time it happened I moved to another company in the same sector I had retrained in.

we work long hours for a huge part of our lives to keep doing something we don’t enjoy.

I would say focus your energy on finding a new job.

That's what I am doing. It helps me stay sane if I remind myself that I am doing everything I can to find a way out of my current role.

Could you also book some leave and use that time to speed up your job search?

Yes, find another job and then resign. I'd say 3 years at this place is a good time on your CV and you don't have to spin any particular reason during the interview other than 'seeking new challenges' etc.

PS, try not to diss this job during interview. Frame it like a positive thing to move.

As a pp says, focus your energy on finding a new job.

In the meantime, keep your head down and do the work, think of the money they are paying you, and don't let the bastards grind you down!

It is difficult though

I feel exactly the same OP but I'm hoping to retire at some point so I keep going

Management unsupportive, don't feel valued and made to feel stupid even though I am not. Doing work I'm not paid properly for,

I feel your pain OP

That's uncalled for. It's not always easy to find another job. I've been looking for something new since January and nothing suitable has come up so I'm still looking.