Bad week- how to not to cry at school pick up

[Bornnotbourne]

My husband left me just over a week ago. The kids are struggling not only has he left, but also left the country.
I’ve been struggling since and said the wrong thing to another school mum (backstory of loads of bad behaviour in their year group, bullying and online abuse) she has told several other parents who have accosted me in the playground or are now whispering about me. Without revealing too much information but their kids are the nice kids who hang out with the kids who are causing the trouble. I vented after years of enduring bullying of my child who is BAME and has suffered racism, bullying and theft of their personal property. I was in the wrong and apologised. Any advice on getting through the next few weeks? I have to sell family home and leave my job so really need advice on keeping it together especially in public.

Oh love, it's the toughest of times. Can you speak to the head? All the parents will have, at some point agreed to a code of conduct when on school premises, maybe he/ she can just happen to make their presence felt for a few pick ups? The school might be able to offer some extra support to your dc too.

Is there anyway you can pick them up from the school office fora few weeks? Just to give you some breathing space?

What support do you have, any friends who can do the school run to give you a break? Although saying that, hold your head up high and ignore the bloody vipers!

Oh lovey. Grit your teeth. They’re nothing to you.

Literally and metaphorically move on. Cry in the bath and eat chocolate. You will survive!

@RoseBucket i tend to be the one who helps others not them helping me.
@Jamstam I’ll ask school about picking up from the office. I’ve been trying to dash in last minute
@TheLurpackYears I might talk to her. She actually helped me with money for the Christmas a few years ago when we went through some tough times. She is stern but nice.

Just arrive 30 seconds after pickup time so you aren't hanging around, pick up your child and go. Be polite and neutral and don't engage with anyone who is stirring, but also don't imagine everyone is whispering about you because they won't be.

@Apolloneuro I’ve been crying in the shower.

@TheYearOfSmallThings i got pointed at by the mum who is upset with, she was with someone I don’t know, so more people to worry about.