Concealed pregnancy

[DianaBarry5]

Please help me, I found out this week that my 22 year old daughter has concealed a pregnancy. After a scan, she is 24 weeks and not able to terminate. She has epilepsy, struggles to hold down a job, isn't working at the moment, boyfriend is long gone. I suspect she is ASD but we are all numb with shock. She is saying she wants it adopted and I feel helpless

What a difficult and painful situation, I'm so sorry.

Would you consider adopting the baby? Is that something DD would want too?

If not, you can only respect her wishes but I suspect adoption is a lengthy process and time is short, she needs to start looking into this asap.

I couldn't adopt, I'm divorced and work full time. So I start the adoption process now? I'm really out my depth here.

OK she has had a scan so she's now in the system for pg care.

Does dd take epilim (sodium valproate) ?

DD can talk through relinquishing her baby with her midwife team.

PS I am really sorry, you must be reeling.

She take's topimirate as had a lot of weight gain with epilim. We are reeling and numb with shock. She can barely look after herself never mind a baby but I'm worried that when the time comes she will change her mind.

Unless your DD does not have capacity then you will have to get her to start the process. It isn't something anyone but her can do. The best thing to do is get her under the care of the midwives as they will.be able to signpost her.

When she has her first midwife appointment she needs to tell them about the adoption plan.
It should be soon as she's already 24 weeks.

Still, it's not down to you is it? She is an adult, with added problems, but it is her pregnancy and child. You cannot make the decision alone, she will know not to get pregnant on Topiramate as it can cause problems

I've been on topirimate before and had assure the Dr I was taking every precaution available not to get pregnant before they prescribed it as there are concerns over it's safety in pregnancy. As others have said she needs to speak with the midwife if adoption is her plan, a very admirable decision from someone you're describing as having difficulty with decision making.