Child lending adult money

[Funnythem]

I just wanted to know people a thoughts on this. Ds is 17 and he gets PIP. He has a friend the same age as him . Ds has been lending money to the friends dad. He gets UC and PIP so more money than ds.

It might just be me being a bitch . I don't think a bloke in his 40s should be borrowing money of a 17 year old .

Yeah not right at all. The adult is in a position of power here, especially if his son is a long time friend. This needs to stop, your son is being used and I doubt the older guy intends to pay him back.

Not on. How well do you know the dad?

Would DS listen if you told him to stop and what is the Dad spending it on?

Gambling.

Why on earth would you be a bitch to think this is wrong? Whatever the friend's dad's circumstances, it's not the responsibility of your DS to solve. At best it's inappropriate and at worst, it's abuse of a vulnerable minor.

YANBU that’s super weird.

It's really not OK

Not ok except in very limited circumstances eg all out and place is cash only so lends £20 because one person has cash another doesn't. The phrase never a borrowers nor a lender be is a good motto to live by!

Is your DS vulnerable?

You need to step in. Of course it's not normal or acceptable and surely you shouldn't even need to ask!

In this instance you need to protect your child and ensure that he stops lending money.

No ds won't listen because he knows everything. And I apprently know nothing at all.

I don't really know the dad that well. My DS and his Ds have known each other since they were 3. So a long time but I only saw the dad in passing. Quick hello morning type thing.

He is being treated for schizophrenia. I don't know if that has an effect on his thinking. Amd it makes him think there's not a problem with borrowing money of a 17 year old.

Ds also said hes helped him (the dad) out emotionally that's very odd to.

That's not acceptable. If your son gets PIP it's supposed to be to support him in a positive way. Maybe something like driving lessons or something to help his fitness or getting himself to college. He's still technically not an adult so I think you need to put a stop to it.

That really isn't acceptable. Who is suffering from schizophrenia?

It this money ever being repaid? Or is your son just funding this adult?

The friends dad

This sounds like an unhealthy situation. Is there anyone around DS that might counsel him to stop with the loans? Do they get repaid?

It's not a big amount ds said hes lent him 20 and he's going to pay him back on the 24th.

As I say its not alot of money but that's not the point ut has a knock on effect as well.

That money is for the disabled person to cope with the disabilities he has , not for others to use. (Eg for adaptations, the cost of extra laundry if incontinent, special food etc).

It's definitely not for lending out. As to what ds spends it in on not the issue as such. But he should not be giving it to an adult

How did you find out about it @Funnythem? I'd be a bit relieved that it was only £20, sorry 😳, but it does have the potential to snowball.

The man is an adult so shouldn't be asking DS, it's so inappropriate because of DS age and it's money meant to help DS. Hopefully this is a one off.

Not on at all. He's taking advantage of your DS's vulnerability.
Do you know what he's spending it on?
If DS feels unable to say no, you must tell the friends Father it is unacceptable
Cheeky bastard

Regarding the Fathers Schizophrenia, he will be medicated so he can't say he doesn't know what he's doing
The amount does not matter

Yeah 20.00 is not much . But it is to ds. Plus it would not surprise me if its happened before.

I know because ds pip is paid into my account. So ds has to ask for it. And he had 30.00 on a day. I questioned him and that's when he told me .

Does DS feel intimidated by this man?
Do you know his wife? Just wondering if you could mention it
It's really not on

I don't think so. Hes the one that chooses to go to the house. Ds has said that he's helped him out with some basic things like a bit of painting . Helped him get some marks of his floor. But ds seems happy and up beat when hes talking about it.

Ds is a bit to generous with his money etc . With friends that are his age to.

They are separated and don't talk.