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Good things from bad situations

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Marygoround22 · 19/06/2024 10:29

I have been in a really dysfunctional relationship for the past few years. Long story short long-distance partner stringing me along about committing and moving in. A lot of low-level abuse there too.

I am ending it soon.

I have never married or settled with anyone, always had the wrong people for whatever reason.

But I have put a positive spin on it because due to my circumstances I have spent much more time with my Mum than I may otherwise have. We've been on a lot of minibreaks together, she calls in most days, we're very close. This is also beneficial to my Mum as my Dad (they're still married) is a grumpy git who never wants to go anywhere with her.

It's also taught me a bit more about being alone. I've never minded being alone but I did think I needed a relationship to be happy, and I am learning that it isn't always the case-although I do miss intimacy, and I wish I'd have had someone to share financial burdens with!

Has anyone taken positives from adverse situations in this way?

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Froniga · 19/06/2024 10:33

Exactly the same. I separated from my husband and my Mum was very supportive. We went on so many trips together and now that she’s no longer with me I have all those memories to fall back on. Wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t separated.
Continue enjoying the time with your Mum.
You really won’t regret it.

Crushed23 · 19/06/2024 10:34

Similar to you, the end of my relationship last year, as heart-breaking as it was, triggered a change in lifestyle whereby I am much, much healthier now.

-Going to bed early and getting enough sleep
-waking up early
-exercising daily
-eating clean and barely drinking any alcohol (used to eat out and drink with exDP multiple times a week)
-better with money / saving more
-generally enjoying a calm, peaceful existence that I am immensely grateful for every day 😊

Marygoround22 · 19/06/2024 16:34

It has definitely made me appreciate my Mum more-and I realise I won't have her forever. It's also made us closer. I am now wondering what else it has done for me, there must be more.

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