Do I just have to wait?

[PinkkFlamingo]

Really struggling at the moment

5month old has gotten very fussy and I can see it’s teething combined with obvious sleep regression. The longest stretch of sleep I’ve had in 1.5 months is 2 hours but I’m normally up hourly and she naps for 45 mins really

so I can’t catch up on sleep. I’m drained as I have a nearly 3 year old too

with my toddler I was happy to accept help. This time I’m not for some reason? I had a family member (my mum) have him overnight and I was fine with it. This time round I’m not sure why I don’t want to send any of my kids out

dh wants me to and wants alone time

but I dont

so this time round do I just have to wait u til she starts sleeping better? DS was one so. If this is the case it’s a long exhausting wait

What’s the reason you don’t want to accept this help?

Two small children and a lack of sleep is tough- let people you trust help

@Restinggoddess ive grown a bit distant from my mum really

i I don’t trust DH side and they don’t ask about the kids / bother with them really. Our toddlers unsettled around them because they’re like strangers

I don’t know what it is I feel like I should do things different this time and I have a weird regret of letting DS stay out I don’t know why ? I don’t find anything wrong with people doing it but I feel weak for doing it and like a distant mum

im ebf hence all the feeds falling on me and also during the night she’s waking and feeds to settle so will feed for like 5 minutes then goes back

like a dummy essentially? But won’t take one😭

If your baby is waking you for a brief feed it’s not really a feed
It becomes a habit - why not ask DH to see to her ( if you know she’s fed etc) sleep in another room if you can. You need your sleep and she will be fine - if she smells
ypu it won’t be easy to do. She will adjust and probably sleep better. We can all get into sleep habits that we shouldn’t - it won’t harm her. My babies wouldn’t take a dummy or bottle - one had a thumb the other nothing.

Your DH sounds supportive and he can help with this
Good luck OP