How much board do charge your adult full time working DC?

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Just that really. And how did you come to that figure? I know a lot is dependent on circumstances and how much they earn but I often wonder if I’m undercharging DD.

She works full time in a job paying just over NMW. She pays £50 a week which is the amount we lost from CB and tax credits when she left education. We are a low income family and we don’t struggle but we still pay for a lot of her toiletries, 90% of her food and we seem to keep locking heads with her over how much of her dinner she eats (not a lot) and we end up chucking good food away.

We had to pay 1/4of our wages, whatever that was. This included food (but if we wanted something special. We had to pay that ourselves - my mum just cooked normal family dinners) and our washing. Obviously things like our phones and cars and stuff we had to pay for.

I think DCs rent really should depend on the amount of money coming into the household. Obviously £50 a week is not a lot. I would probably do some simple maths on weekly food costs, heating/water/laundry costs etc. and sit down and have a chat with her.
I’d be cross at the food wastage too and think that the family serving way may be better for you as she can choose what she will eat. She’s not eating what you’re putting on her plate anyway then you could freeze or use leftovers.
Is she good with money? Does she spend it on snacks/takeaways? Might be why she doesn’t eat dinner.
You could ask for more money but save it for her ready for her deposit for rental/mortgage in a few years time.
But if you really need more money to run the house, pay for her toiletries, food etc then I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for more.

Think there’s more cost involved than a mortgage payment. I have a daughter that’s in college here and when she’s not here my bills are considerably lower, more so electricity and heating bills plus the food bill.

I have told her that when she graduates and is working full time that she will have to contribute towards the household bills. I’d be looking at £150/£200 per month though I’d like to think I’d put it into a savings account to help towards her first mortgage

My DS started work at 18 after his A levels, minimum wage. We charged him 25% of his take home pay for bed and board. He saved 25% into an ISA so he had money for house deposit/travelling/car etc. He then saved 20% for everyday savings holidays/birthday/Christmas/hobbies and 30% was used for every day spends.

I still did his washing, he still kept his room clean and tidy and any other bits that I asked him to do.

Food wise, I cooked for all of us, but his was often boxed up either for the freezer or the following days lunch. If he wanted, take out or anything different to what was being cooked for the family, he paid for it.

Your example of the gammon, in our house I would not have served egg and the remainder of the gammon would be made into lunch the next day.

I'm so glad to read this, I was beginning to feel terrible! DS is 19, works part time and pays £300 a month because that's what I need him to contribute

If you know she’s not eating what you put on her plate surely the solution is to serve her less food? If you gibe her a smaller portion, she’ll waste less 🤷🏻‍♀️.
I can’t imagine having my dinner plated up for me, I don’t plate up for my 10, 7 and 5 year olds.

If you find it necessary to plate up food, then give her a very small portion. She can always have extra if she is hungry.
I can't quite understand why you're wasting food in this way.

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Yes, I've never done that either. It must be very wasteful of food. We always just take how much we want from bowls or platters.

I don't charge my daughter anything. We are relocating abroad soon and 6th form here wasn't working for her, so she'll redo the year when we move. DD got herself a part time job to keep busy.
She's really good at saving, she put £600 into her savings account out of £1000 this month and she helps around the house and with walking the dogs without me asking.

Dd pays £50 per week. Worked out that’s roughly what she costs us in extra utilities & food. She sometimes eats with us but she works in hospitality so gets discounted food and depending on her shift times isn’t always home in the evenings.

My son is 25 and pays £400 a month. My other son is at uni but pays me some when he's home and working over summer. My 22 yo is disabled so I'm his carer and can't work, he's on PIP, UC & LCWRA.

As for dinners, I come from a plated up household so that's what we do. One of my sons works nights so his is plated up and he microwaves it later, or reheats and cooks his own portion of pasta/rice if needed.

If I left them to serve themselves my 22 yo would probably take the lot. Or at least a lot more than he should. He likes his food, and doesn't quite get equal shares. 😂

My dcs are 24 and 26. We encourage them to save their wages as they'll be paying bills for the rest of their lives as soon as they move out. I appreciate this is not always possible. We pay their cars, phones and health insurance.

10% of take home pay and they pay for their own toiletries, mobile phone, car insurance/tax. They are saving hard for a house deposit.

I grew up knowing when I started work I would pay a third. All us kids did the same, a third of our own different incomes.

When I left home, I was used to not having that money, but my parents had saved a fair amount of it and gave it back.

My kids work on the same principle. They pay a third. I save some, use what I need.

As for food, dinner is cooked, if for any reason it's not eaten, it's frozen and eaten another day.

My daughter moved back with us in April; her husband had been here for part of that time, and is spending his time between here and Turkey while he's waiting for his German work permit to be approved. They both have a very different diet from us, so we agreed that they would buy all their own food and drink. Because of that, we don't charge them any rent because the extra cost of having them here is very minimal.

I lived with my mum when I was 30 just for 6 months after a bereavement. I moved in with 2 kids in tow. In that 6 months I didn't pay rent but I brought everything for the house for everyone including my mum and sister so food, toiletries etc and I cooked for me, my children and her and my sister. So she was not out of pocket but she wouldn't accept rent. She was happy for me to buy the food and cook for her so that was my contribution. I understand that not everyone would be able to afford not to charge rent.

Just stop cooking for her, don’t give the option to eat with you. If she eats shit, that’s her problem as an adult. She’s allowed to make bad choices, if she were away at uni she’d be fending for herself at that age. Shopping and cooking for herself is good practice for moving out.

£200 for accommodation, and buys own food and toiletries is fair.

Exactly. It makes no sense whatsoever. At this point, the op and her husband are deliberately throwing food away.

DS is on 29k and we ask for 65 per week, his GF also eats here about three evenings a week. His car, toiletries and phone are his own business. He does let me borrow his car.