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It's Eid (Muslim equivalent of Christmas) and I'm all alone...

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ShittyEid · 16/06/2024 19:19

Just that. We're heading towards divorce by the end of the year. He's taken the DC to his side of the family and I've hardly seen them. Children are having the time of their lives being spoilt by their dad's side of the family and getting lots of attention but I've been cooking all day and feeling really left out. My family has always been a big letdown. I invited them for Eid but they said they had other plans. All my friends have got their own plans with their families and I'm feeling like I don't matter to anyone. The irony is I enjoy social gatherings and hosting so much but I've been ostracised by every family member I know (in laws have always hated me because of the fear that I'd taken their son away- they'll be having him back soon and my family because I've seen through the games they play and called them out on it and they've not liked that). I don't want them in my life but I feel their absence on every Eid. I don't know if I should've kept my mouth shut and ignored my principles- calling out the bullsh it when I've seen it and let my family carry on as they are or ignored it all and pretended they were nice people.

Apologies. I know this post probably makes little sense but I'm feeling so down right now and there's too much to go through to explain why I've been left all alone as I am right now.

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Hoglet70 · 16/06/2024 19:22

Eid Mubarak lovely. Sounds like maybe you are better off without the family as it doesn't sound like you are treated well at all. I don't know what to suggest but try and enjoy the peace and time alone if you can.

ShittyEid · 16/06/2024 19:26

Thank you. I've tried to think positively and have spent the day cooking and cleaning which I really enjoy and then showering and taking my time getting ready and dressed up. But the reality has just hit again that everyone else I know will be getting ready right now for the final meal of the day with their families and I'll be changing into my pyjamas as soon as the Dc are in theirs because my day of 'festivities' will be over. He'll be helping me get the DC ready for bed and going to his parents house for a late meal.

The weird thing is- I only started losing people in my life when he entered it. He's so negative and antisocial and yet he's the one with everything I want and enjoy about Eid- family!!!

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strawberry2017 · 16/06/2024 19:27

Eid Mubarak.
I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm in a similar situation at the moment and I can appreciate how difficult it is.
Sending you lots of love and strength. X

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AnthuriumCrystallinum · 16/06/2024 19:35

I'm so sorry :( You sound like you'd be a wonderful host and lovely company.

Do you have something to look forward to with the children when they get back? Will you get them for Eid next year?

Beachballplayer · 16/06/2024 19:38

So sorry to hear this happy Eid, why don't you concentrate on making some new friends so that when it comes around next year you won't be in this position.

yummytummy · 16/06/2024 19:40

I'm alone on eid too. Its shit. Feel exactly the same. The day means nothing to me and I am so fed up of this life

Beachballplayer · 16/06/2024 19:41

Sorry just to add as well if your feeling like this there will be other feelings this this as well, much like at Christmas, why don't you sort some sort of community thing where you could all get together?

wateraddict · 16/06/2024 19:42

Eid Mubarak, I am so sorry you are feeling so down today. I am imagining all the lovely things you have made today, you should be proud of yourself for that. I hope that next Eid you will feel a million miles away from this.

mitogoshi · 16/06/2024 19:43

Obviously this year is now here but in the future if you haven't got the kids, are their charities you could volunteer at cooking a meal for those without family, homeless etc? I know people who do this at Christmas and it's a lovely atmosphere, very busy and makes a difference with the advantage that you aren't just waiting for dc or seeing social media posts about happy families

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