hello - wonder if I could have some advice on behalf of a friend? Putting Parent A and B so not outing and NC.
Parent A and B have not been together since before birth of child. Child had legally had to see parent B for a few years but made the decision to not see Parent B when they could. Parent B was not a great parent who had a lot of issues and this largely contributed to Childs decision. Parent B has never paid CM. Parent B has respected this decision and has only seen the Child by accident over there last decade - child has always been polite in these circumstances. Child is now in their mid 20s and wishes parent B no ill harm, but still does not want a relationship.
The issue here is presents. Despite not being a great parent, Parent B always sends Child a birthday / Xmas Present and as they've got older, it's been money. It's not huge sums (less than £100) and Child has always thanked Parent B (via Parent A who has Parent B number).
Child feels incredibly guilty about this - child does not need / wants gifts from Parent B and feels awkward accepting them especially as Child has chosen not to have a relationship. For reference Parent B knows nothing about Childs adult life. Child never expects a gift.
What should Child do? Continue to accept presents (these are dropped at parent As and the child no longer lives there) or tell Parent B to not send them? Child doesn't know how to approach this as Parent B has been known to have issues in the past but also doesn't want to continue accepting gifts from Parent B as they feel guilty for accepting a gift from someone they do not want a relationship with.