Anyone who doesn't have a dad, or their dad is a dick or it's just complicated and wants a quiet space today

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My dad has been dead for over a decade. He had dementia so in some ways his death was a relief. Sadly we never had a great relationship as my mother played us kids as pawns against him in her bizarre controlling toxic way.
I'm NC with my mother now but I so regret I never got to know him.
He was a good gentle bloke. By the time I realised how toxic my mother was and got the balls to stand up to her a bit he already had dementia.
No idea why I'm posting this.
Just thinking about him today on Father's Day

It can be a difficult day .

my dad died when I was 14 ish

however he didn’t always make good choices ( to put it mildly)

even all the fb posts about missing dads in heaven don’t really feel like they apply

my own husband , who objectively I would say was a slightly better then Average dad , is working untill half 8 today .

so it’s a very quiet day, and I’ll make sure he has a nice tea to come home to .

I'm sorry you had such a cruel mother OP.

I too lost my DF to dementia and although my mother isn't an easy woman she isn't in your m's league.

Tbh I had forgotten today was Fathers Day. I miss my dad every day. He is one of the first faces I see every day as his photo is at the bottom of the stairs. His birthday and Christmas are tougher tbh as he loved celebrating them and his presence (even the last years when he was ill) is sorely missed. He was always a bit 🤷‍♂️ about Father's Day.

I hope you and all of us without our Fathers, can have a relaxing day.

My Father left when I was a baby and was never heard of again, I had a step father who was great for providing but dreadful at anything else,I am very low contact with him.Our youngest has just flown the nest but my son and dil will be bringing our Granddaughter over later.Fathers Day has always been rather difficult.Thinking of everyone.

I have never known my dad at all. He left when I was a baby, and no one wants to talk about him. My mum died when I was 16, but she gave me all the love I needed.

But the no dad thing has never bothered me! He never came to find me so sod him!

A difficult day for you OP.
I actually got quite stressed by the number of emails I got asking if I wanted to opt out of Father's day promotions. If I hadn't had those I could probably have got through most of today not remembering it was actually today.
My father has been dead a long time and he was cold and unloving towards me so it was actually a relief when he died. However my DH died when my son was 18 and he was a loving and caring Dad to him. So today we both miss my DH.

Huge hugs to everyone x
normally doesn't bother me but I had a biggish birthday recently and I think it just made me reflect a bit.
I think I am a far better mother than I had or at least I so hope I am so my kids will never have these regrets.

Lost my day when I was 20 .

im 40 this year and will have spent exactly half of my life without him

ive found his loss harder the older I've got as he now has 4 grandchildren he will never meet .

My dad died when I was 18. He might as well have died when I was a baby. I didn't know him.

As the years went on, I found out much about him, which had a profound effect on my life.

My late mom was both parents to me. I don't love my dad. I mean that in a healthy way today. You can't love someone who lived a lie you don't know. Yes, loads of therapy, etc

The nearest I've seen to good dad parenting is my 2nd husband who was and is the dad he didn't have to be to mine/ours and grandpa to our 5

My dad is a serial adulterer. My kids dad is irresponsible and we’ve recently decided to separate so feeling it today both for my kids and myself.

My dad was useless. Horrible toxic relationship with my mum who is a complete narcissist and I'm wondering now if it's as one sided as she makes out. When I was about 17 and I could drive I started going to visit him. We'd go out for meals and drinks and have a great time. Now I'm a mum of toddlers and have less time to put the effort in, he has put 0 in. I spent my whole birthday 2 week ago checking my phone for a message from him. Third year in a row.
My mum is such hard work as well. Feel like I don't have parents.
Today is about my wonderful husband for me.

Sorry to hear about all your dads. I have a good dad but my mum is awful.

The reason I'm posting here is because my children's dad despite me asking several times this week has blanked me about seeing them today! I feel really shit about it especially since my new partner has his children round and I feel like it's the elephant in the room. I'm worried it will affect them, he used to be a good dad when we were together.