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Howmanysleepsnow · 15/06/2024 01:23

Posted in30 days but hardly any activity there and really need feedback.
DH has a shop. A woman has recently started part time. He’s gone to hers after work a few times for 2-3 hours. He says it’s because she’s suffering from anxiety (rape and abuse survivor) and he wants to help. Also he doesn’t want to lose staff.
I suffer from depression too (raped 24 years ago, before I met DH). I feel suicidal pretty regularly: I told DH once 6 years ago- he said if I wasn’t enough to make me happy he’d leave and I didn’t mention if again. But now I’m jealous of his staff member.because she is worth his time and sympathy but I’m not.
He also has customers/ friends going through similar and finds time for them, yet I feel so alone.
I tried talking to him and got told he can’t afford to lose the staff/ business. Why should I be the affordable loss? Or is it just that he knows I won’t leave (I won’t: I love him; we have dc; I can’t admit I’m just not enough for him; I have no one else and am not likeable enough to have friends)
I was just crying I bed (trying not to-but it’s hard) and he woke up and said “I don’t want to sound heartless but could you stop crying- it woke me up and I have work tomorrow “
I don’t have a question, or need a reply . Just needed to get it out and have no one irl (probably with good reason, I just don’t know what it is!)

OP posts:
Wfhlayabout · 15/06/2024 01:25

Have you been to your gp for support?

Howmanysleepsnow · 15/06/2024 01:30

GPs don’t really give support . I’ve had antidepressants, and a therapy triage (rejected as in trained in therapy and it’d have little value )

OP posts:
Wfhlayabout · 15/06/2024 01:33

Is your partner kind to you?

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Bringonthesunforthewashing · 15/06/2024 01:33

You’re not alone you have us!!!

I am not surprised you lay in bed crying after what you have said, I would be too.

You know what, I think you should find sometime over the weekend to sit him down and basically say what you have told us. You are not asking for anything other than you deserve. Kindness, friendship and love, which he isn’t providing for you xx

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