Couple attraction. Wonder why we get close to one but not the other.

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At the weekend 5 ladies were having a night in, nice food and drink.
All married for a long time.
We got to talk about who one person finds attractive and someone else doesn't.

It was a long time ago when I met my DH in a disco (70's) he was with his mate.
Both of similar build and attractiveness.
Yet it was DH I was drawn to.
He is funny, kind, to me handsome and polite.

What do you think

Chemistry.

What exactly is chemistry? What goes in our body? How are we attracted to anyone anyway?
It's just so bizarre to me.
Some people say pheromones but have you ever glanced at someone across a room and felt a crazy attraction?

It's nature.

If we all fancied the same person and only wanted to reproduce with them, the human race would've died out.

Ditto Food. If we all ate the same food, there would be none left for others and the human race couldn't survive.

You must have liked the smell of your now DH better 😁 https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/sep/08/can-you-smell-perfect-partner

I think it's partly chemistry but what does that mean? There was a guy, when I was late 20s on a night out with friends. Met him dancing, had a snog, swapped numbers, met up the next day. The NEED l, the pure physical drive to touch that man. Honestly, I can't even explain it. I was crazy. Like being horny teenagers all over again. Unfortunately we lived apart, I visited once and it was the same. As soon as we were in proximity to each other, just that need to be in contact. He visited me once and I actually wouldn't sit on the sofa next to him because I knew we'd get no conversation.

Unfortunately he had some mental health issues linked in part to sex so we never went all the way, but I know it would have been amazing. I've never felt something like that before or since, and I'm glad we live far away because it scares me to think how it would feel to be around that pull.

But relationships that last need more than that. There is chemistry with DH who I met less than two years later, but also a similarity in the important bits. We share some interests, he's respectful, he's kind, he's a good dad and husband, he makes me laugh, he thinks I'm hot and funny and smart.