Honestly it’s really getting to me now. She is 71 and as fit as a fiddle. She obviously has some kind of anxiety. Hasn’t worked for 40 years and lost her husband and all his benefits last year. She gets £800 state pension and is obbsessed with money. She never liked him but her life was easier in many ways. She’s our direct flat neighbour and we literally do all the maintenance in our mutual hall. She has gone from reading a book a week to watching telly all day. the tv is an example brand new smart tv which I set up and she still insisted on getting a box with it so she can record her programmes this is despite me begging her not to and showing her how to use catch up. Of course the box was a waste of money. She refuses to use email despite me getting her at least five emailing addresses so now all her channels are in my name. She’s happy with that.
she has an only 49 year old son who lives with her and does Buggar all not a lift to the shops, nothing. He literally sleeps there telling her all about his health issues just to make her stress more. He ran the marathon but still manages to tell her he will need surgery soon, his father was exactly the same living off prescription pain killers.
she refuses to mingle or go out except on Wednesday and Sunday when she gets taxis to the shops she could easily walk to. She is 6ft and strong,
another example is that she has a stray cat she loves but became fixated on the fine for unchipped cats. Not even telling me yesterday she made arrangements for this cat to be scanned. Then came running into me because the cat has a chip. I know this as I have a chip reader. So hysterics now that she is going to lose the cat. Luckily thanks to a dear friend we spent all afternoon sorting out the cats ownership and in seven days the cat will be hers officially. She had rang my bell countless times to say she’s not out of the woods as there is a seven day leeway and he could still be claimed. Dear god we’ve told her he won’t be claimed as the original phone number has been changed. It’s one thing after another.
is this depression? I’ve tried to explain cbt and how she would benefit from a trip to the doctors but is there anyone I can get intouch with.
i have cancer myself and am on chemo I really can’t be doing with all the knocks on the door. I know she is lonely but she has no intention of coming out of her comfort zone. The son went to stay in a hotel last night as she was going on so much. I dread to think what the future looks like.
I sound horrible don’t I? Honestly my 80 year old mother could run rings around and I have to stop comparing.