What sounds fair to you?

[BreezyPanda]

SAHM with 2 year old and 5 week old baby
Full time working dad who is WFH
Toddler wakes up very early in the morning and won't go back to sleep until someone sleeps with him, causes too much mess if he sleeps with parents in their room.

Trying to get him to sleep by himself but in the meantime who should wake up and go sleep with him?
What sounds fair to you?

Thank you

Either:

• take turns
• dad, given you have a 5 week old baby to care for who presumably wakes multiple times for feeding

At this point it’s just survival isn’t it.

If the toddlers early wake ups are only resolved by sharing with an adult, I’d be tempted to have mum with 5 week old (feeding etc), and dad and toddler sharing.

Whichever parent hasn't been up at night with the baby.

If your DH doesn't want to go and sleep with the 2 YO, he knows what to do........

So all they have to do is get into another bed? If there's one who really struggles to get back to sleep, then the other one. Otherwise, both are being a bit pathetic arguing over this.

The non working parent.

During the week - The one without responsibility for financially supporting the family by performing well at work the next day.

At the weekends - The one who hasn't had to be up in the night.

So stay at home parents aren't allowed to have any sleep because they don't "work"? My DH works full time but I can assure you my day is not easy by any means. He tells me often that he could not handle the workload of running the house and looking after 2 children under 5, that I have to deal with on a daily basis.

Never mind that the OP has a 5 week old baby who is up countless times during the night, and her DH is likely getting sound sleep. Her DH should absolutely be the one to get up with the toddler or try to resettle him if she is up during the night with the baby.

He works at home so its not a safety issue (assuming it's a desk job and not operating power tools in the garage of course) and I can't see how changing beds and going back to sleep again is going affect his performance at work the next day.

If he needs more sleep he can go to bed earlier so he's had a full night's rest before 4/5 am or whatever 'very early in the morning is'.

I’m well aware of the work entailed being a parent to 2 or more young children, thanks.
I got up with mine enough times.
I’m also aware that wfh is not just pissing about playing at work.
Some people have to concentrate the moment they start work.
The op asked for opinions and I gave mine.