I've been left with a 4yo

[raysan]

A close friend asked me to babysit their 4yo at my house so they could have a spontaneous night out. She'd do it for me and I love her kids, so was happy.

However.... last contact was 12.30am and her phone has been off since at least 5am. I dropped her kid at nursery after checking she was not at home. Why would he phone be off?? And if it was, why would she not come home so I could find her?? We don;t have mutual friends. Waiting for a text back from her teenager (who will probably sleep all morning), who at least has her sister's number.

When would you start to call hospitals???

It's a one off so I will forgive her, if she is just sleeping off a hangover but will be clear this is a one time free pass

Panic over, Her phone was nicked but she just managed to call me from someone else's FB messenger and is on her way back.

Still do not understand why she wouldn;t have come home for her kid but will let her know that I won;t do that again - she needs to stick to plans and be contactable.

Teenager is still none the wiser and (presumably) asleep.

Panic over, Her phone was nicked but she just managed to call me from someone else's FB messenger and is on her way back.

That sounds like bullshit to be honest. If her phone had genuinely been stolen she would have come to your house this morning apologetic and in time to take her own child to nursery or used her teens phone to call you. Instead she just left you with her 4 year old with no thought to how he would feel.

Phone nicked my arse.
What a useless mother

hey before everyone calls bullshit on her having her phone stolen, it’s a hard lie to stick to, is she back online? buying a new phone? did she show up without a phone to your house?

Phone nicked on a night out and she couldn't manage to make contact with the person caring for her child until gone 11am the next day??

I can smell the bullshit from here.

Assuming there was really nobody on earth she could borrow a phone from, why wasn't she at your door at the crack of dawn to head the worry off before it began? Why wasn't she at her home when you called by?

Christ the poor kid.

Poor kid

Yes, this sounds like an excuse to me too. And a lame one at that.

You don’t need a mobile phone to pick up your child though do you…

Her phone being 'stolen' doesn't stop her picking up her child

I hope you don't actually believe her BS

Phone nicked ??

And that's stopped her picking up her child at 11 as .......

If someone is going to lie make it believable

Poor child thinking mum coming to get him

She could have asked any friend of that was true to message you

Sounds like she got lucky ......

Phew but I would steer well clear of babysitting nights for her.

I had a friend who sadly was bereaved and I baby sat while she went out and regained social life.

It was OK until she just kind of assumed I was sleeping over, came home at 11pm and went out again. I was up all night with her lovely but poorly snotty child. I realised I was just enabling her and stepped back. When she had to pay for a babysitter all night it didn't seem quite so appealing to her to stay out all night. It was the fact she hadn't asked me that made me feel I was having the piss taken.

But it makes no sense.

Having her phone stolen doesn't render her incapable of picking up her child, or going home.

I call bullshit, too. If I lost my phone I wouldn't immediately relinquish the care of my child.

No I wouldn't automatically think they were lying and my initial response was indeed to call the police but if any of my dearest friends told me what was clearly a blatant lie then I would absolutely be calling them out on it. I wouldn't just swallow their bullshit just because they were my friend and I'd be frankly more pissed off that they thought I would blindly believe a tale with so many holes in it just because we were friends.

But wouldn't you ask the friend why having no phone prevented her from coming and picking her child up at 11pm as arranged?? It's not just the lie but it's the fact she's used an excuse that just doesn't make sense.

Someone can support you and be liar

Well done for making this thread a brag about how wonderful your friendships are...🙄