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Advice on my DD

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adviceForMyDd · 13/06/2024 08:53

I stupidly posted in AIBU but I’ve Unwatched my thread now as I cannot be bothered dealing with them in the morning. I’m just after advice not being told I “need therapy” and my “poor dd” etc.

so many times kids and parents have told me things about my DD aged nearly 9. I’ve brushed it off but I can’t ignore anymore as she doesn’t get invited to parties and her friendship group has dwindled down. This morning 3 boys stopped me and told me my DD has a crush on all the boys and kisses them. If this was an isolated incident I would laugh and think it’s cute but it’s not and I don’t want to focus on all the other incidents. The mums are very judgmental and I’ve seen them judge others for much less. I stupidly used the word “reputation” in AIBU which all those people are focusing on rather than the general advice on how to tackle this. I don’t know how to explain it without using that word as they are all talking about her and making fun of her many times. She doesn’t have friends any more as the mums probably tell their kids to not talk to her. How should I approach boundaries with her and explain she doesn’t go around saying she has a crush on everyone and kissing them. I visibly saw a boy moving away from her in class assembly! and others laughing at her. Please advice me without judging me, the other mums will do that! I just need to know is this normal and if not how do I explain it to her?

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BlueChampagne · 13/06/2024 12:18

I'm surprised school hasn't got involved. I would start with organising a chat with her class teacher.

LakeTiticaca · 13/06/2024 12:23

What does your DD herself have to say about her behaviour?
And yes definitely talk to the teacher

MermaidEyes · 13/06/2024 12:32

Tbh I read your other thread and you had plenty of good advice on it. Your dd is nearly 9, she's not that young. She's old enough to have chats about bodily autonomy. She may have crushes on boys and that's fine, she just needs to know where to draw the line re hugging, kissing etc so it doesn't make them uncomfortable. Her not having any friends has to be a different issue. Have you talked to her about her friendships, what she enjoys doing or playing with compared to her friends in her class?

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