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Situation with dd ... sensitive situation

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Justanotherday32 · 11/06/2024 10:28

A few weeks ago dd ex attacked her.
Hes out on bail no contact allowed. There was some contact from his mother to try and arrange for their baby to have contact with the father. In a nut shell thus all fell though as social services said he needs to sit out his mental health issues before he can see baby. Dd says there's no way he will do it.

There's been lots of unkind things said DD has herm sort of that because she's so angry. It's Been general slagging of and going on about what a nasty person he is what he put her through. And he's been lying to people about what happebd etc.

Dd has said to his mum about how he won't ever see his child again. And Been very brutal about it. Could say she's used the baby as a weapon

I 100% support my daughter but i Just wanted to give an example of how she can be . But also not forgetting what he's done to her physically/mentally and emotionally.

Anyway so the above has been happening. Then DD found out her ex has now started seeing someone else its Been 3 weeks since dd ended things with him so its pretty fast . DD is now feeling suicidal since she found out.

Before it's said I know she needs therapy.but that needs to be done via GP. As we don't have the money to go private.

Also know about DV courses she can do.

And womans aid etc .

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AnneLovesGilbert · 11/06/2024 10:31

It’s good she’s got your support though I’d avoid saying she’s using the baby as a weapon, that’s bullshit. She’s sensibly protecting her child from their abusive dangerous father.

Justanotherday32 · 11/06/2024 10:56

AnneLovesGilbert · 11/06/2024 10:31

It’s good she’s got your support though I’d avoid saying she’s using the baby as a weapon, that’s bullshit. She’s sensibly protecting her child from their abusive dangerous father.

Oh I 100% would nit say that to her abd tes she protecting her baby and she's definitely made the right decision. I'm glad she has and I pray it stays that way.

I'm not sure how to explain it. I'm just a bit confused that dd was screaming out alot that he will never see his child again. Although that's likely to be true she was using that situation to cause emotional hurt. At the end of the day she owes him fuck all and he's fucked her up mentally and emotionally so I think she feels like she wants to do similar to him.

But as soon as sge found out he was strong someone. She started saying how broken she is. What a nasty person he is. How could he do this to her etc etc. To the point she struggling mentally pretty badly

As I say I'm 100% on her side. But im trying to understand the part white she can dish it all out but then when something comes back on her she can't handle it .

This sounds awful that's why I keep saying I'm on her side and 100% support her . But im just trying to understand that Side of it.

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