I am overwhelmed with stuff and completely paralysed. Please help!!

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I have 3 DC, work pretty much full time, do the school run for the youngest, club drop offs, all the cooking. I just about manage this, however will admit I do end up with takeaways a couple of times a week as I haven't planned meals, which I hate to do.

I have soo much stuff to do, I am in the middle of renovating my downstairs which has taken unnecessarily ages. I need to paint, I hate doing that. The house is a bit messy, not horrendous but it stresses me out if it's not nice and tidy. . I try to do a blitz of a room and it's back to square one within a couple of weeks. I promise myself I'll keep on top of it but can't.

I have made a list of things to do from paying invoices, booking appts to calling tradesmen ( who never answer or turn up when they say they will). More importantly though, I need to sort my health out - I need to do certain exercises, take supplements and look after myself. But I'm not even doing the basic, Im ashamed to say, Im neglecting myself, the house, my health, the kids. I'm finding it so overwhelming that I am not doing anything like I've just frozen. I didn't used to be like this. I have no idea what's happened.

I don't know what to do, where to start. how to unfreeze.

I have a dh and he does tidy up and he does all the shopping and ironing, laundry and he helps out too but it's my stuff that I can't do.

Sending a virtual hug as I know how difficult it can be.
You can’t possibly do all the things at once so I’d focus on a couple of small things and build up. Sod the exercise for now and take a vitamin and get 8 hours sleep. Ditto the life admin, do the urgent stuff and leave the rest.
I would ditch the takeaways and go with something easy like fish fingers, chips and peas which can be thrown in the oven.
Honestly trying to work full time, exercise, eat healthy, look after three children and keep on top of the housework is not realistic. Just be kind to yourself.

I'd start by going for a walk alone, even for 15 minutes, just to clear your head. Then make some lists with headings. Renovation. Health. Tidying. Make a list under each one of what's to be done so you have at least a little bit of clarity. Then do one under each list every day.

You're overwhelmed and when you get like that (and I do as well) it's so much to do that you don't do anything. You need to do one step at a time. Take health as an example. Tell yourself you'll drink plenty of water and you'll go for a walk every day as a start. Then the decoration - you'll do an hour's painting. Invoices - you'll take an hour to sort those out. Concentrate on one thing at a time for say an hour at a time.

And there is loads of advice on the internet about being overwhelmed.

I go to work and feel all my energy is spent there and by the time I come home barely can get the food on and then I juts mentally and physically crash. Eben doing one small thing seems unsurmountable.