Anyone up to talk

[Twotimesrhymes]

Having a tough time - just feel so lonely

trying to stay positive. Married with kids and have a good job so I know I need to try and be happy. My parents and I are estranged yet it’s all on Facebook (parents with arms around my ex- sil who cheated on my brother while I have spent a lifetime being criticised and mocked)

anyway is grieving for losing a parent and doesn’t get how I feel and I have spent months listening to his needs and just want to be alone now

I'm awake had a rocky relationship with my mum so I get it

Thank you buffy

i wish I didn’t care but I do.. tomorrow is another day and the pain might lessen a little 💐

Bless you.

That's rubbish!

Sometimes we need to protect our peace and maybe mute them on Facebook so it's not so in your face. I know it's easier said than done. But if you didn't see the picture, you wouldn't be "as" bothered.

It's sad being so lonely and not able to share with your loved one because he's also grieving.

You're doing what you can ❤️ and acknowledging your feelings is a great place to start.

I think you'll always care a little but it gets more distant if that makes sense? Like it's happening to someone else and not you

That sounds tough, and very hurtful. Would it help to unfollow on Facebook (you’d still be Facebook friends, you just wouldn’t see the posts)?

Things always seem worst at night - when everything is ok, it’s a very peaceful time but when you’re unhappy it can feel so lonely.

Be kind to yourself xx

I hear you 💐 It’s hard work trying to stay positive when you’re going through a lot. It takes a lot of mental energy.

I wonder if you would consider treating yourself to some counselling. It’s nice to offload to someone who is sympathetic but objective, face to face. Maybe your DP could use a few sessions with a counsellor too, so that the listening and empathising doesn’t fall just onto your shoulders.

When I feel like this I tell myself that tomorrow is a new day and things will seem a little less bleak if I can get some sleep. Do try to get some rest if you can and some of us will be here in the morning if you need.

Thank you all so much
I do feel like I am becoming distant from dh (of 15 years) because he is consumed by an elderly mother with dementia and losing his father. He only talks about them and is visiting most evenings (of course!)
all he discusses is his mother and now wanting to paint a picture of his home house etc. his father was nearly 90. I feel it’s all a bit much. They feel he was taken too soon and are angry with the hospital etc. the family message each other most of the day.

my mother has never been kind or nice to me. His was nice to him so I get why he feels so affected. Sometimes I wonder would it be easier to split up with him so my life isn’t all about his mother and his memories and it’s like salt to my wounds and lack of family. I am taking the kids away next week as a break (we also have a family member of his staying with us so that is increasing the intensity of everything) I feel selfish for saying all of this