Would you go to another child’s birthday party on your child’s birthday?

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Someone I know from a baby group is holding a birthday party for her son on my DDs birthday. The children are only turning one so it’s more of a party for the adults. I’d like to catch up with the group as haven’t seen most of them since going back to work a few months ago but I feel weird going to another party on my DDs birthday even though she is too young to understand birthdays. We don’t have anything major planned just presents and cake at home and maybe doing something that she likes like taking her swimming or to the zoo. Would you go to the party in this situation?

Yes I would and have. I think it was the 5th birthday and the mom gave my DD a little gift too

No.

I would if you like the people involved and you don't have other plans. It will mean your whole day is immersed in lovely birthday-ness without you having to make all the effort!

Yes, definitely go. It will be fun! Mention it’s your kid’s birthday & there can be some little cheers for her too (unless it’s one of those mums who would be pissed off…)

I'm not sure. I'd maybe worry the parent throwing the party might think I was trying to piggyback on their kid's party.

We have. My DD has a friend with yhe same birthday- the first year they knew each other, we tossed a coin to see who got which day. Afterwards, we alternated before starting joint parties.

Yes we did. DD turned 2 and had no clue about birthdays at all. She just went to a lovely soft play party.

We didn't mention it to the host as we didn't want to cause awkwardness.

DD's party was 2 weeks later as we did a joint picnic with a friend.

Yes we have done so. When they got older we then used to liaise as to when we hold their separate parties so that any mutual friend guests could go to both.

You can do a family thing the day before or after.

At that age, yes. Your child is too young to be aware of it being their birthday and as adults you can still celebrate her birthday. A party is only a couple of hours and it will be nice to see everyone.

Yes and I did on my sons first birthday. Lovely to spend time with friends.

I have been in this situation myself and decided on balance I wouldn’t feel right telling the person hosting the party that it was also my child’s birthday for fear of taking the limelight away from the child having the party but I also wouldn’t feel right celebrating another child’s birthday and ignoring the fact it’s actually my own child’s birthday. So I just declined the invite. If the children were older I would let my child decide what they wanted to do of course, but at such a young age you can get away with missing it.

Yes DD and a boy from toddler group were born the same day, they had the party on the birthday and we took the Sunday after. A complete non issue and gives you extra activities you don't have to plan. DD always had multiple birthday celebrations anyway, one with me and maternal GParents, one with her dad and then her party with friends.

Yes

they don't actually know at one it's their birthday

dont expect to steal the attention for your child

At that age? Definitely.

We went to one once and a little girl told the magician it was her birthday so he same happy birthday to the wrong child

Yes because your child is one and won’t have a clue. Just make sure you don’t do anything to take the limelight away from the child whose party it is though.

Perfect, you get a party on the day without having to organise anything. What's not to like :)

No. Jesus don't go and try and annex another kids party 🙄
I'd rather celebrate my own child's birthday with her. It's her first !?

As she's one, yes why not. Enjoy the whole day.

As they get older, no. Gets more complicated especially if parents are paying for a big activity party and don't want to share.

I did quite a few joint parties with DC and their closest friends who had birthdays within a couple of weeks of each other at primary school. It was great - shared cost, shared supervision on the day, meant they could do something together as the same group of friends coming anyway.

yes

Yes, we moved our youngest daughter's birthday by a day one year, so she went to a friend's party. She was young enough not to know what we'd done.

However, I do remember being grumpy about going to another girl's party on my birthday when younger (we shared a date) so can only get away with it when they're little and oblivious.

Yes and I have - DS picked up chicken pox at the party 😂

Yes at that age but I would celebrate on a different day. If dc 1st birthday fell on a weekday for example I would invite family on a weekend for some cake instead so I see this as no different.

There is no right or wrong so just go if you want to and not if you want to do your own thing. Don't feel pressured either way

Yes. My son had a group of friends at primary where they all had birthdays within a few weeks/days of each other. It was often another's party on their bday. Another mum and I did use to check we didn't clash parties.

At 1 I wouldn't think twice.....you do your special events - zoo etc another day. What a lovely week you will have.

I go to another child's party every year on my son's birthday.

We organise the parties so we can both attend each others party. This year ds is having an afternoon party and the other boy will be having his in the morning.