My life is a mess

[Lifesucks2024]

My life sucks at the moment and has for too long. I've no idea where to start to fix it.

1. I hated my job and started a new one 3 weeks ago. I HATE it even more and don't think I have the skills to do it. There's nobody to help me with it due to understaffing. I'm constantly told I have massive potential in my work but the reality is I never get anywhere in my career. Despite extensive experience and good qualifications, I'm barely paid more than national average.
2. I'm lonely. I live alone in a pretty remote area. I can't go to any local clubs etc as they're all in the day time when I'm working. I work from home which is even more lonely and there's no local office or co working spaces unless I travel for about 90 minutes, so a 3 hour round trip.
3. I need to lose a lot of weight - my diet is horrific.
4. I know I'm depressed but it's situational so I don't think medication will help.

I have no one to open up to about all this. I know I should feel lucky. I have my own house, I can afford to heat it and eat. I get the occasional holiday. Sometimes it's hard to feel lucky though.

I’m sorry you’re struggling OP, it sounds like a change of scenery all round might make a big difference. Could you look into moving somewhere a bit less remote? We don’t live in a city centre but there are lots of clubs/groups here on an evening, running ones, gym classes, book clubs, art classes, cooking classes etc, honestly there are probably 10 “clubs” of some kind going on every night locally on an evening. That could also potentially solve your work issue as you could move closer to an office and would be able to go in there more, or a job change to go with your move to something that suits you better.

Tackle one thing at once will make it easier otherwise it will all feel too overwhelming.

The first thing I'd look at in your shoes is your depression and weight. It's likely the former is fuelling the latter. Visit your GP. With a brighter more positive outlook, it will feel a lot easier to tackle everything else.