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Contacting/meeting aa estranged parent in adult hood

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User26273637837368282 · 07/06/2024 13:45

Any trips? Anyone experienced this? I know it depends on the cirumstances.

never known my dad despite that he lived locally, we have mutual contacts and he had other children. I think him and my mum were young and couldn’t put their differences aside for the sake of their baby - me. I think my mum made it hard for him yet he should have fought surely 🤷‍♀️

anyway, I have had some email contact recently and meeting in person was mentioned. I’m not sure I’m ready yet.

i have told my mum about this so she’s in the loop. We have a strained relationship but I needed to tell her.

do I ask him why he didn’t see me or let the past be the past?

do I go alone or with someone else?

I do want to do it but I don’t feel ready or prepared yet!

I a not after some close relationship with him or anything. If anything I want answers and some form of closure and maybe just to be civil with him. Life is too short!

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Beautifulbythebay · 07/06/2024 13:48

At 21 after nc for 19 years my dd made contact with her df.. They met at Costa for the first few meetings.. Then dinner.. He brought his dw and teen dd.. My dd said there was absolutely no connection there and politely told him she wouldn't be meeting up again. Lasted about 2 years mostly for her half sibling who really wasn't bothered about having a half dsis..

User26273637837368282 · 07/06/2024 13:54

Beautifulbythebay · 07/06/2024 13:48

At 21 after nc for 19 years my dd made contact with her df.. They met at Costa for the first few meetings.. Then dinner.. He brought his dw and teen dd.. My dd said there was absolutely no connection there and politely told him she wouldn't be meeting up again. Lasted about 2 years mostly for her half sibling who really wasn't bothered about having a half dsis..

Oh I’m sorry it wasn’t a good experience. At least she tried and I assume she feels some form of closer from it?

I am 32 which I didn’t mention and have my own DC.

I an also concerned he will bring his wife if we meet, for the first time. I’m not an asshole but I do not feel it would be appropriate on the first visit. I’m okay if we were to meet a couple times then meet her but not from the start if that makes sense?

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Crappingmyselfaboutthis · 27/10/2024 22:06

@User26273637837368282 -its been a few months - did you reach out? How did it go?

I’m in a similar position and am due to meet up.

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