My son has just messaged me, I think I am actually losing my mind

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He messaged to say he'd tried to book "that place" but it's fully booked, do I want to go somewhere else?.

I have absolutely no idea where or when we're supposed to be going.

He's 22 and has a very serious girlfriend, I rarely see him. I'm sure I would remember if we'd discussed plans to do something together...

Did he mean to text his girlfriend?

Call him?

This would be my first thought.

It seems unlikely he would booking somewhere for you both unless you'd already had a conversation about it.

I'd assume the text wasn't meant for you.

Ask him?

I'd just text back a question mark if it was one of mine - it may be for the GF or someone else or something I'd forgotten.

No, that was my thought too, but I asked and it's definitely for me.

Just ask if it was meant for you!

Is there a regular haunt you'd meet for father's day as that's next weekend and would explain the business?

Well has he explained?

So did he remind you what it was for?

I'd also just ask him though

Is he paying? If so, suggest the swankiest place you can think of!

Just ask him when you had that conversation? Not hard. Then if you still don't remember just assume that it is your age or the fact he thought he mentioned it but didn't. Not the biggest issue, unless you are worried about health but I would assume this is not isolated incident?
And hey, bonus evening/day with your son. This is a good thing

Radical thought I know, but can you call him?

He's not one of these people who mentally plan to have a conversation and assume that then means they actually had it with you - I have family who do that swear blind we had a conversation when we haven't yet.

If he's clarified it's meant for you surely he also clarified when you were meant to be going?

Yes, I asked. We apparently agreed to go for lunch tomorrow (my day off) but I have a medical appointment and a pedicure booked and absolutely no recollection of the conversation.

Either he or I have lost it. Being treated to lunch with DS2 would be exciting for me, not something I'd forget.

Well, he has not booked yet. Can you make it? Can he do dinner instead?
It happens, to all of us. We have far too busy lives and far too many worries these days.

Sometimes DH tells me he told me something. The thing is sometimes he does this when I’m doing something else so I’m not really listening properly. When your son started to retell the conversation did it ring any bells?

I forgot my son's graduation.
I had been told about it, booked accommodation etc, and then entirely forgot. If it doesn't get put on the calendar or a scrap of paper then things go out of my mind.
I was reminded during a whatsapp exchange when DS1 said I'd meet his GF the following week. How come I asked. My graduation he said.

I had to own up. Fortunately my work is flexible enough that I could easily book the day off and I think DS2 was on school hols.