Petrified that my kids are gonna get taken away

[J244]

Hi guys just a quick one because I have no friends and I have no one to talk to I don’t know where to turn I’m so so scared that the social are gonna take my boys away, back story so me and there dad broke up due to him using again and never being there for them and spoken to someone who I knew when I was 19 who works at flying start saying that we broken up him doing all of it again and she made the report they first came out to see what how the boys were to see if food and that are in the fridge she coming Tuesday again I’m not sleeping not eating constantly worried if you they take my boys away from
me they are my life and I really don’t know what will happen if they did I have meant health issues too so it doesn’t help just don’t know

Why do you think your kids will be taken?

You've broken up and he doesn't see them?

Sorry, its a bit hard to understand but your ex did drugs and you have broken up but you are still worried your children will be taken by SS? Is that right?
Just fully cooperate and show you have no intention of being involved with your ex and it should be ok

What makes you think your children will be taken away?

Have you got your own social worker, OP?
How old are the children?

Are you on medication for your mental health condition?

@J244, to have kids removed, social workers have to show that the children aren’t safe and then go to court for a judge to decide. Unless the children are in immediate danger, it usually takes a while for them to be removed.

As long as your boys aren’t left alone, they’re well fed, are clean and have clean clothes, get to school/nursery on time, and aren’t being abused in any way, social workers are unlikely to take any action. They’re not looking for perfection, just care that is good enough for your kids. Indeed, they might be able to give you support, help you to see your GP etc.

If you've left the drug using boyfriend, you're keeping the children safe. This is a good thing and social services will be pleased you've taken that positive step.

If you are yourself clean of drugs and alcohol, the house isn't a health hazard and the kids are fed, watered, washed, clean clothes and generally happy, there's not much to be worried about from social services!

If you need support with your MH, you could see if they can get you that.