Living with my parents at 55 (light hearted)

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My DP & I moved in with my parents 12 days ago. Our house sold and as we're waiting for our onward purchase to complete they offered to put us up.

We are very grateful for this and appreciate it immensely but boy is it hard living with your parents after living on your own for over 30 years.

My DF is 82 and my DM is 79. They are both fit and well. Both still drive and are fairly tech savvy.

But..... they turn EVERYTHING off at the socket.

They lock all the internal doors, when they go out so it's like Fort Knox.

I have never in my life seen so many plates, bowls and mugs for 2 people (I think my mum has a secret charity shop obsession)

Every day when we both get in from work they say "we never heard you go out this morning"

And, at the weekend she said "you're not having another gin are you?" - it was my second one! 😂

I love them both dearly but have had to bite my tongue quite a few times. I'm sure we are equally annoying though.

Hopefully in 5 more weeks we can leave them in peace.

Aww bless

DP and I recently stayed a couple of nights with my widowed DF. We were sitting watching TV with a glass of wine. At 8.30pm on the dot, he stood up, took our half full wine glasses (first glass for both of us), turned the TV off and told us both we had had enough to drink and it was time for bed

You have my sympathy

I’d pay for temporary accommodation, personally. I turn into an appalling version of my 15 year old self if I spend more than about two hours in my parents’ house. You can hear The Smiths soundtrack in the background, and I swear my hair starts getting a henna tinge…

I sympathize completely with you. We moved in with my parents between houses: it was supposed to be for a few weeks and ended up being 9 months. My mother and I nearly killed each other.

Fingers crossed for you that you can move soon!!

@UnravellingTheWorld OMG that would be my worst nightmare.

We have a super king size bed but are currently sleeping in a double. It isn't great ☹️

I couldn't last 9 months.

Lordy. But that’s hilarious, sorry!

I went on holiday with my parents last week and it was lovely but my mum is turning into Nanna Royle:

She and my dad disappeared for a couple of hours. When they reappeared I joked, ‘I was worried one or both of you were dead!’ to which she looked at my dad, nodding vigorously and said, ‘Well! You should all think on!’, in a ‘I told you I was ill’ kinda way 🙄

She also became properly irate about a missing tennis ball, I thought she was going to call Spanish search and rescue. I got the blame for losing it obvs 🤣 she was proper marching around huffing, checking under every bush.

I was lucky that my mum was the opposite. After she was widowed she loved me going to stay for a few days and would make sure we had copious amounts of wine and whisky in the cupboard, and bedtime was usual round 2am. Bearing in mind she was almost 80 it was quite impressive.. my father (a teetotaller) was probably turning in his grave at this rebellion. 🤣

Ive lost my parents and would obviously love the chance of a night with them but i remember the reality of staying with my widowed mum and her asking if i wanted my electric blanket turned on at 6.30pm

My DP lost his mum to cancer at 18 and had a difficult relationship with his dad ( now also no longer here) so he tells me regularly how lucky I am to have kind, loving parents.

I think it might depend on your particular relationship.

My daughter, her partner and I have lived in the same house together for about 20 years. Their decision.

But, since my daughter was about 14/15 I've always thought of her as a person in her own right, not just "my daughter". This helped our current relationship a great deal, I think.

Yes, I'm Mum, I have a few irrational worries (when will you be back, text me when you get there, that kind thing). She panders to this. As she says, it's easier to tell me she'd arrived than to think about me worrying.

but overall, I'd sooner say nothing than interfere in her relationship or her life, unless asked directly. Caveat, there is absolutely no inference of abuse by either of them. I'd jump in pretty quickly if there was.

But, I'm talking about mine and my child (54 years old) relationship. No two relationships are the same.

My widowed DM is 80 and spends a lot of time at ours - I love her to bits but she drives me slightly crazy. A few weeks ago DH and I were going out with friends and she waved us off saying don't be too late and don't come in drunk. I was like, I'm 50 mum and it's my house! 😂